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Surviving harassment doesn’t mean it didn’t affect you. Being strong doesn’t make it okay. You shouldn’t have had to be.

42,089 DAYS W/OUT A HARASSMENT INCIDENT AND COUNTING!!!

A group of milliners working in a hat shop. Ca. 1910

To Report or Not To Report...that is the eternal flaming highway wreck of a question.

You don’t need to prove it

was

serious enough.

If it made you feel unsafe, disrespected, or humiliated

that’s serious...that’s enough.

It is something that happened to you. 

It is something that can have a big impact on you. 

But it was not because of you.

And it doesn’t define you or your self-worth.

Learn more

Kiki Smith: Nuit (1992)

Given a choice between accepting that something awful has happened, or thinking that someone is mistaken, exaggerating, or lying, much of the time our brains opt to deny the awful thing happened.

Anything you avoid in life will come back, over and over again, until you’re willing to face it—to look deeply into its true nature.

-Adyashanti

born in the wrong skin, not wrong for me. wrong for them. targets, not flesh.

The majority of sexual harassment cases involve some kind of complication.

Maybe you dated the person, flirted with them, or had sex with them before. 

Maybe you knew or suspected that they had a history of being inappropriate with others. 

Maybe you’ve always looked up to this person, considered them a friend, a mentor, or someone who’s helped you a lot in the past. 

Maybe it’s happened more than once. 

Maybe when it happened you didn’t know how to react so you didn’t say anything. 

Maybe after it happened you acted overly nice to the person or reassured them it wasn’t a big deal. 

Maybe the person isn’t the kind of person we think a harasser is: they’re someone really respected in society or more attractive than you or physically smaller or female. So you or others have a hard time believing that person could hurt you. 

Maybe you really like the person for other reasons and feel torn about seeing them as someone who’s hurt you. 

It’s important to know that it’s not unusual if your situation feels more complicated.

In fact, that is the more common situation. 

Some songs hit differently after.

Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.

-Carl Jung

Being sexually harassed is less like you were running and tripped, and more like someone pushed you. Replaying everything you did or didn’t do doesn’t actually help you to prevent it from happening again.

Your life is a construction. Keep building...

“Construction Worker” by Vladimir Serov (1964)

You did not deserve to be sexually harassed.

This is true no matter what. No matter

what you wear

how much money you make

where you work

or anything else

Bitches Get Riches

How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships • Bitches Get Riches

A growing body of research suggests being in abusive workplaces creates very similar stresses as being in an abusive relationship.

How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships

Earlier this year, Piggy and I delivered a speech on the subject of burnout. That there’s an appetite for advice on this subject among women’s professional associations will, perhaps, not shock you?

As I was researching the impact that burnout has on the body, I got an eerie feeling that the symptoms seemed familiar. I wondered if I’d already written something on this topic and forgotten. (We’ve written several hundred articles apiece, so it happens!)

But no! What was tripping my extremely faulty memory triggers wasn’t a past article about burnout.

It was a past article on domestic violence.

Keep reading.

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and found me guilty of making things awkward

If you think you're being sexually harassed...

you're

probably

right

Michael A Davenport, 3,090 Degrees Fahrenheit (Oil on canvas, 2025)

30in x 48in

Songs hit differently after...

Even people who care about you and want you to be safe may disbelieve you at first. This is not because you are to blame or because your story is not true.

Being sexually harassed is less like you were running and tripped, and more like someone pushed you. Replaying everything you did or didn’t do doesn’t actually help you to prevent it from happening again.

You did not deserve to be sexually harassed. This is true no matter what you wear, how you look, how much money you make, where you work, what you do, or anything else.