You Don’t Need To Prove It

The performance review said you were “pleasant under pressure.” You thought about telling them it was acting. But why ruin a standing ovation?

Being sexually harassed is less like you were running and tripped, and more like someone pushed you. Replaying everything you did or didn’t do doesn’t actually help you to prevent it from happening again.

4th thing maybe: who did you 'work for' and why?

If you’re wondering if it ‘counts’ as harassment...that’s the problem

Fred "touch me not" Gruber finally got let go after his third reprimand.

Dance of the Forest Nymphs by Warren B Davis

Muted Square in the Zoom

They didn’t say my name in the meeting. Not once. I was there and had written half the report.

The credit went around the table like a bottle passed hand to hand. I watched it skip over me.

At lunch, I sat with them. One of them asked me, “Are you new?”

I’ve been here fourteen months.

After a while, you stop correcting people. You stop reminding them that you’re part of it. You become good at inhabiting the background. Or a muted square in the Zoom.

But I’m still here. Still opening the spreadsheet. Still writing the copy. Still dressing up and disappearing.

They didn’t see me. But I saw everything.

We whisper because when we scream, we get labeled 'DIFFICULT'

What's a 'whisper network'?

and found me guilty of making things awkward