You Are Enough - Blog Posts

This. If I can get this into my head, that would be great

self-improvement should be because you want to improve your quality of life, not because you feel or think you *need* to be better in order to be loved or allowed to live. there's no end goal with self-improvement, it's easy to dig yourself a grave when you don't realize that you're not on a ticking clock to be the 'best version of yourself'. all you need to strive to do is be the version of yourself you are the most happy with. find out what values you find important, what kind of friend do you want to be, how do you want to react to things. what are things that would improve the way you go about life? what would make life easier, better and more enjoyable for you?

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Reblog to let prev know their presence is wanted

I don’t know who needs to hear this but I just wanted to remind you that life isn’t a competition or a constant self-improvement project. You don’t have to be better or “prettier” or smarter than anyone else and you don’t have to overwork yourself to be deserving of rest. You are not behind. And it’s totally ok to find happiness or fulfillment in a life that others don’t understand. It’s ok if success looks different for you than it does to someone else. I just wanted to remind you that you are enough. You always have been. 🩷

you are good even when you are unemployed.

you are good even when you need to rely on others’ help.

you are good even when you are depressed.

you are good even when you are hurt.

you are good even when you are scared.

you are good even when you are overwhelmed.

you are good even when you are not tidy.

you are good even when you are confused.

you are good even when you have difficulty performing tasks.

you are good even when you feel like you’ll never measure up to being an adult.

symptoms are not morality.

Olivia Rodrigo was so right when she said “pretty isn’t pretty enough”. There are pretty girls everywhere but anytime we aren’t dolled up to the nines we are just average and it’s not good enough??? Like it’s not Instagram worthy if you don’t look amazing, you don’t get the same compliments you would about your looks dress down as you do dressed up. Pretty isn’t pretty enough because society makes us feel like being pretty is constantly looking perfect. Anyway you are all really pretty and you don’t have to change in the slightest to be pretty enough💜

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That is SO true. ☝🏻 My family does this all the time, and I hate it. 😞

Don’t ever let anyone get you down (too much or for too long,) and don’t let it define your worth. ❤️‍🔥 YOU ARE ENOUGH.

Don’t listen to the lies.

sending love out tonight to everyone who is progressively losing their abilities, whether that's movement, ability to walk, eyesight, or hearing.

it's hard to come to terms with the fact that you can't do things that you used to be able to do. I'll be honest, it feels like you're losing control of your life. it can feel very isolating and hopeless. its scary and overwhelming, and it's so hard to deal with.

you are not less than just because you can do less. im proud of you for still being here, and i wish you ease with adjusting to new ways of life. please take care of yourself, i love you.

Some reposts from Insta because it’s not easy rn

Stay safe, take your meds, and don’t forget to eat and drink water.

As long

Being single and celibate is a necessary beautiful and precious journey. This time spent alone offers an opportunity for healing and a recalibration of your energetic system that you just can’t get with searching for outside comfort and validation—it’s an experience that can only be fully realised when you dedicate yourself to self-discovery.

Embrace your freedom; it is a vital aspect of uncovering your true self, building your foundation and aligning with the deepest truths of your heart.

You don’t need to be more loveable—just more YOU.

You are a constellation of dreams. You need not chase the stars; you are already stardust.

“Just stay alive, that would be enough” - That Would Be Enough, Hamilton (2017)

I love that this quote (out of context) is kind of a reminder that you being alive is good enough. You don’t need to do something crazy with your life or do something amazing for you or your life to matter. You just living and being on this earth is enough.

I think we all need a little reminder of this every day

Hey you know that thing you're good at? That thing you think makes you valuable? The way you are, or the thing you do, etc?

You can be and deserve to be and will be loved and cherished even without it.

You're not worthwhile because you help, or you are good at making your art, or your skills at your job. You're worthwhile inherently, as a person, even without all that.

And I want you to internalize that because otherwise there might come a day where you can't do The Thing You Think Makes You Valuable. You'll get sick and can't draw, you'll burn out and can't do your job, you'll be emotionally unable to do your regular helpfulness for whatever reason, and you'll start to feel like you have no worth anymore.

But that's not true. You have worth, you deserve comfort and companionship and happiness, and that's not a conditional thing. You deserve that, even if you can't be Useful and Productive and all that shit.

It's an easy trap to fall into to justify yourself as "well, at least I help/make art/work hard" and have that be entirely too much of your self-esteem. Being proud of your work is fine. Being proud of yourself solely through your productivity is not, because you're making it conditional. And conditional on something that can change for reasons completely outside your control!

You gotta stop thinking about it like you gotta justify the space you take up on the planet. It's great if all those things make you happy: just make sure they're not the only things that make you feel like you are justifying your existence, or you'll crater if they get taken away.

You are lovable and likable and you have value as a person and a member of society, even if you never can be productive again. You are enough.

Here’s the thing about personality disorders.

Among everyone I know with Avoidant Personality Disorder, I’m one of the happiest, most outgoing, and most emotionally secure.

I have strong, positive, intimate relationships in my life.

I feel comfortable interacting with strangers.

I even make friends easily.

(The secret they don’t tell you is that even when you’re good at it, not everyone is a good choice to try it with!)

But this week, despite all of those things,

I still turned off my phone to avoid a dreaded phonecall.

I was crushed by a moderate disappointment.

I genuinely worry that my friends have stopped liking me, and that I’m not welcome in my social groups anymore (“they’re finally onto me!”).

When someone confronted me about something, even without any overt hostility, I had an anxiety attack before I could respond. And after the conversation I cried in bed, so hard that when I got up, I had tiny fresh bruises around my eyes.

Most days, I have the impulse to take down posts that feel too personal, too confused, too me.

I doubt myself and everything I’m trying to do. Sometimes I still feel like hiding in a closet for the rest of my life would be a better idea.

And I obviously still struggle with all my usual avoidance problems -- like the effort it takes to leave the house.

There are extenuating circumstances, but...

...the thing about having a personality disorder -- or any mental illness! -- is that it’s always there in the background.

It’s usually always under the surface. It can affect everything in your life.

And even when someone seems to be doing really, really well, this is still something they have to be aware of and careful with. Sometimes, if you’re recovering, it feels like it’s always waiting to take over again.

There are always triggers. There are always situations that will prompt a disordered response. Sometimes you’ll be able to choose away from acting on that response, and sometimes you won’t.

And there’s never a time when self-care stops being important.

So if you’re struggling?

Don’t worry. It doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you, and it doesn’t mean you’re worse than everybody else. Because everybody has times where things are hard and awful.

It’s okay to talk about how much it sucks. We all need validation and support.

It’s also okay to deliberately focus on what’s good and what successes you’re having, if that’s helpful for you.

You can even do both at the same time. In spite of all the things I listed up there:

I turned my phone back on and called them back! I used my self-talk skills to cope with the disappointment! I kept showing up to my social group! I had the confrontational talk and survived! I didn’t take down any posts! I learned some things!

Most of us tend to downplay our victories and emphasize our faults and mistakes. Consciously doing the opposite of that can help us change our thought habits.

But mostly:

There’s no wrong way to heal. There’s no wrong way to get better, or learn what you need to learn. And you can get stronger and grow as a person, even when you have lots of bad days.

What works for you is good enough, and that’s all that matters. <3

Just a reminder :)

You don’t need to prove it

was

serious enough.

If it made you feel unsafe, disrespected, or humiliated

that’s serious...that’s enough.

Reminder that you are enough. You are trans enough. You are gay enough. You are queer enough. You don't have to accept societies "standards" for your sexuality.

its honestly so sad to have to see kids going through this here in the great fantastic USA rn. I know how other kids can get and as an American citizen who has family(not trump supporting) who work for the government that might lose their jobs, im directly impacted by this. Stay safe everyone- and remember, you are valid

A reminder to the children of America.

You are a child. It is not your job to fix this. You can’t help this. You have to stay safe, even if that means lying about your political beliefs. Put yourself first now so you can put other first in the future.

You are Enough

If you see this post

✨ Friendly Reminder ✨

Drink a glass of water

Eat a small meal

Take a nap

You are enough and you have

It's okay to step away and recharge your mind and body.

Mistakes are part of growth; they don’t define you.

make time for yourself.

Its okay to set boundaries, You have the right to prioritize your needs.

If your struggling, talk to someone you trust.

Even a small step is a step forward towards your goals!

Keep learning and exploring; there’s always something new out there!

You are loved and people care about you.

Self Care/Self Love is NEVER selfish