amen
I would rather let a “special snowflake” into the autistic community than exclude an autistic that needs support and cannot get a clinical diagnosis. I would rather validate ten “special snowflakes” than invalidate one autistic who needs support and cannot get a clinical diagnosis.
I would rather welcome a hundred “special snowflakes” without question than force an autistic to disclose their entire life to me just to get the support they need when they cannot get a clinical diagnosis.
I would rather help those that don’t need help, than deny help to those that need it.
good advice
Hey megs, if you do, how do you deal with feeling unproductive? I get sick a lot in the winter and also can’t work as much as others as I’m autistic and I never feel I am doing enough and it’s especially bad when I’m ill (I have poor attendance in college) as I try and do anything but it’s nothing and I’m not even in school. thanks :)
hi! i also struggle a lot with fluctuating health and energy levels, especially where uni and work are concerned. i try to keep myself feeling positive and motivated (and in turn productive) by tricking myself into doing fun but productive things e.g. watching a documentary when at home so that im learning while resting, going to museums to recharge and draw for fun (getting outside and learning while also getting in illustration practice), changing up my environment (healthy habit) by going to a coffee shop to work for a couple of hours instead (or if im not up to working, then to read for an hour), going to the botanic gardens for an hours walk on days when my head feels too foggy and i’m restless, etc.
i also try to be really kind to myself and mindful of my thinking habits. i work really hard to not ‘beat myself up’ mentally- if i don’t do anything at all productive in a day, i dismiss it and instead think “ok well thats happened. what can i do now to better tomorrow?” and though it was really hard at first, it’s definitely gotten easier with time and i’m hugely better off for it. there’s no point dwelling on things that have already happened.
i also try to be mindful of my autistic health (though its a bit harder because alexithymia). i try to be as productive as i can until 5pm, then in the evenings i make time for resting, stimming and engaging in special interests. i find that special interests are really important in helping me feel positive and motivated in general, so relaxing in the evenings helps me to feel much better the following day, and i always prioritise/value this time, no matter how little work i got done in the day etc (i never ‘punish’ myself for not doing well).
if i feel that i’ve had a particularly bad or unproductive day, i tend to sit down with my planner/bullet-journal for a while and just sort of dump my brain out- making lists of priorities and out-standing/unfinished work/tasks. getting it all out onto paper helps me to remember and feel more on top of my to-do list, even if i’m not actually getting /that/ much done. sometimes when i’m doing particularly badly, i’ll rewrite these lists 3 or 4 times a week + it just helps me to feel grounded and aware.
i dont know if any of this will be helpful to you but i hope it is + i wish you the best
Love your blog so freaking much!! It’s so relaxing 🌿☁️ what are your book recommendations? I’m always looking for new ones hehe
Thank you so much :) I hope you enjoy these books:
The Night Circus // Erin Morgenstern
The Bear and the Nightingale // Katherine Arden
The Secret History // Donna Tartt
City of Thieves // David Benioff
The Raven Boys // Maggie Stiefvater
The Diviners // Libba Bray
Station Eleven // Emily St. John Mandell
Purple Hibiscus // Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Six of Crows || Crooked Kingdom // Leigh Bardugo
I want that shirt
I sent a message last night about my new Autism Shirt™ and thought you’d like to see it
Kay: !!! it looks super soft and comfy!!! I also like the colors. They go well with your skin tone. SIDE NOTE IT THAT A HARRY POTTER POSTER IN THE BACKGROUND??? You’re a good bean, and I support you. I hope you get a lot of comfy flannels in the future.
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tbh i think im gonna skip uni today and go to the museum and draw instead because honestly im really not in the mood for (life) the noisy and bright illustration studio
i’d much rather see the illuminated manuscripts and walk by the river than spend 8 hours at uni in an unworkable atmosphere only to come home overloaded and exhausted i just cba!! im tired
“We seem to be forgetting what pragmatism and compromise and listening hard to the other point of view even feel like. Intransigence is confused with leadership. We seem increasingly in thrall to leaders who offer the seduction of unwavering solutions to complex and evolving problems. Activists on both sides of the political spectrum police allies and elected representatives for purity of thought and action, issuing anonymised threats to those who seek to express nuance or deviation.”
— Time for a listening revolution
Yes it is!
the sky was so beautiful. ig: lega.cy
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Ooh! Aah!