Seeing People My Own Age Get Shit Done Should Be Inspiring But It’s Actually So Depressing 

Sirius : do you consider yourself a morning bird or night owl ?

Remus : i don't really enjoy being alive at any time during the day, thank you very much.

Me:

Parents:

Me:

Parents:

Me: *puts earbuds in*

Parents: iebdwibtifhd

Me: what

Parents: HDJEHDIFNE

Me: what

Me: *takes out earbuds*

Parents:

Parents:

Me: *puts earbuds back in*

Parents: jekdelwnfoehdir

Me: what

James: truth or dare

Remus: truth

James: how many hours of sleep did you get today?

Remus: ...

Remus: dare.

James: go to sleep.

Remus: I hate this game

glad i did

looking at old photos of myself thinking not only is that girl dead but i killed her

THIS IS THE BEST THING HUMANITY HAS MADE

I made this so now all y'all have to look at it.

Hubble’s view of the Carina Nebula, from the 2007-2009 era I think?

JWST’s view of the same nebula, July 12, 2022

I think a lot about how we as a culture have turned “forever” into the only acceptable definition of success.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

I just think that something can be good, and also end, and that thing was still good. And it’s okay to be sad that it ended, too. But the idea that anything that ends is automatically less than this hypothetical eternal state of success… I don’t think that’s doing us any good at all.

Sirius: don't be wholesome, it makes me feel like a prick.

Remus: feel like ?

‘we all have the same 24 hours in the day’ but we don’t have the same opportunities, environment, wealth, family support, connections, privileges, mental and physical health, or circumstances