Hello! Saw The Ask A DID Sys Post And Though We'd Drop By. Personally We're Curious- How Do You Cope
Hello! Saw the ask a DID sys post and though we'd drop by. Personally we're curious- how do you cope with having so many beings in your system?
We're a collective of around 40-something at the moment, and we have reason to believe that our headcount will not stop growing, nor will it ever go down. This has caused some distress since we're not quite sure how that will work, and we already completely lack a clear roster of frequent fronters. We've been curious as to how others cope with "high" headcounts by most standards. (Although I recognize "cope" may not be the correct word, as it implies the high headcount to be a bad thing and not everyone would experience it as such.)
Hey! For us, we also have an unclear frequent fronter list and are frequently blurry. It was similar for us in a case where we would not stop discovering new members- and it still is that case for us. We try and cope with high headcounts by documenting activity from fronters whenever possible, along with adding various personal notes about them that may help us understand them better. We also try and establish their roles so we can better realize when they may be out- although it isn't always easy to find out, especially when a large number of them are unformed fragments. There's not exactly a way to 'cope', I'd say, but especially if there's a need for control, organizing and documenting them down definitely helps you feel more in control of your headcount numbers. Also to say, there's nothing wrong with having a high headcount. It's just a representation of how much your brain wanted and tried to protect you, no matter how much it took, even if its hard and stressful.
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past us: “im genuinely so glad we aren’t finding more fictives or just new alters in general! we must’ve finally found a headcount that’s able to handle our daily life and struggles!”
..so about that. -blurry
Traumagenic and endogenic headmates aren't enemies by the way. Sometimes they play Minecraft together. Sometimes they hold hands. Sometimes they kiss. Sometimes they cover work shifts or school for each other. Sometimes even within the same system. This goes for disordered and nondisordered systems too btw.
from system to system.. how to unblur… in the past two or three months we’ve had clear knowledge of whose fronting a total of thrice… please i can’t do this anymore😭 -blurry
seeing people actually being cared for and having their injuries treated is so bewildering and also very joyous for me. because holy shit, if i wasn’t screaming, crying, and unconscious or wasn’t in enough pain to the point my parents thought was enough no matter how much I begged them, i wouldn’t be allowed to rest.
love that guy who helps us sleep. that guys a great guy and i would nominate them for president.
wait that ISNT what it means???
Parents think it's a sin for their children to disobey them. Parents think it's okay to assault their children in order to instill the fear of God in them.
Those parents are prime examples of using the lord's name in vain. But they don't want their children to know that. So they instead invent some bullshit definition.
caretaker casually revealing they’re a bear is not something i put on my 2025 system bingo card
‘letting my intrusive thoughts win’
shut the fuck up.
you’re referring to impulsive thoughts, intrusive thoughts are undesirable and often horrific for the person experiencing them. you dyeing your hair randomly is not an intrusive thought.
if i let my intrusive thoughts dictate my actions, id be in jail for a long fucking time.
cw: medical shit , flashback mentions
nah i fucking hate going to the doctors because when they even slightly touch me every part of me screams to bolt like please stop touching me im 5 seconds away from having a panic attack 😭😭
real question . is it wrong to be overly dependent on headmates ? i mean i know that’s. kind of the whole thing about did that it’s formed to survive when there’s nothing else that can help you and stuff but . ?? i feel like a lot more . dependent ?? ig ? we’ve never really had close relationships in Sys and so idk it kind of feels odd
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(they/them)disordered systemi don't care what you label yourself as, it's not my business. just keep the fucking discourse off this blog.
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