INFJ X ENTP

ENTP x INFJ

"Clayton Ravine was named after a teacher. They say she fell in there a hundred years ago."

ENTP x INFJ

they matched each other’s freak

People might shout and swear at the narcissist. And think they’ve put them in their place. But really they’ve played into their hands. Like a petulant young child, if a narcissist can’t get positive attention, they’ll settle for negative. And a good argument or telling off still fuels their fire. Yes, they’re happy you’re focusing on them. Even if you’re telling them how awful they are.

The above quote is from: https://narcissisms.com/why-narcissists-create-drama/

I read through an old journal today, with entries from a time when I was in an emotionally manipulative relationship. INFJ's are particular magnets for malignant and emotionally abusive individuals. I didn't know it back then, and even though I know it now, it still hurts to remember it.

It took me almost a decade to realize that with certain people, attempting to have a calm conversation about your needs and feelings is actually a field day for their continued emotional manipulation. The alternative--standing up for yourself and being assertive, or even letting your righteous anger flow--also fails to resolve things and, what's more, it even fails to create any amount of distance between you and the offender. In fact, anger feeds the narcissist, and further fuels their desire to remain attached to you like a leech. Whether it's a calm conversation or a fury-filled telling-off, both give them exactly what they want--attention, be it good or bad.

It took me a while to realize that even when I was driven to tears, when I was sobbing to my ex about how much he had hurt me, that in those moments, he seemed to gain an air of peacefulness. My anger seemed to be a key that unlocked a sense of comfort within him. At first I thought I was misreading him. Then, when I realized I wasn't, I thought it odd. Then, when I realized that my despondent tears actually fed his need to be needed, and that because of that, he was totally okay driving me to tears over and over again--I finally realized I had had enough.

The INFJ "door slam" is a gift. It is not a flippant choice, but wisdom pulled from the depths of an almost unbearable despair. At some point, you get the point--reasoning nor anger can fix it. Only an end can fix it. A total and complete end. Cut ties to that person. Take the ties and burn them. Then gather up the ashes, douse them in gasoline, and burn that shit a few more times.

Then walk away and be free.

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Laughing at myself as I go through some old emails from grad school. If you ever wanted an email version of an INFJ door slam, it looks like sequentially replying to a social group email chain with:

"Thank you for the invitation! I’m so sorry I can't make happy hour."

One week later...

"Unfortunately, I can't make the birthday party."

Two weeks later…

“I’m unable to join that day.”

One month later...

"I won't be there."

Four months later...

"I'm moving to South Africa."

I swear Doc is ENTP and Clara is INFJ and it makes my heart so happy

Clara appreciation post

Get yourself a partner who will:

Stand up to (and then kick) the town's most dangerous man while he's holding a gun so you can dance together in peace

Stop a whole train and leave all their belongings behind to go find you

Trust you enough to jump onto a moving train from horseback to join you in a supposed "time machine" without questioning what the hell you're doing driving said train off a cliff or how you could possibly have a working time machine

ENTP x INFJ

William Wordsworth

MBTI types as schools of philosophy

ISFJ: historicism, the belief that some event(s) or period(s) in history has/have had a pivotal role in the way humans have developed (e.g. believing that the fall of Rome was the turning point of human history) ESFJ: antipositivism, the belief that human social life does not follow definite laws the way the natural world does ISTJ: stoicism, the belief that bad and destructive emotions come from poor judgment and that one is most free when they are free from anger, jealousy, and envy ESTJ: pragmaticism, the belief that practical topics (topics that have real-life applications) are the most relevant topics ISFP: romanticism, part of which holds that intense emotions like apprehension, awe, horror, and fear are the most beautiful things that humans can experience ESFP: empiricism, the belief that  knowledge either only or primarily comes from sensory experience ISTP: objectivism, the belief that reality exists as purely as ever even without conscious creatures observing it but that humans have a connection to reality through their senses ESTP: critical realism, the belief that some of the senses provide accurate versions of reality, while others do not INFJ: neohumanist universalism, the belief that extending your love to all living and nonliving beings in the universe allows you to see the ultimate truth ENFJ: epicureanism, part of which holds that making friends is essential to living a happy and satisfying life INTJ: solipsism, the belief that the only thing that you can be absolutely sure exists is your own mind ENTJ: transhumanism, the belief that advanced technology can and should be used to enhance humans’ physical and intellectual abilities INFP: idealism, the belief that reality as we can know it is purely mental and does not exist outside of our minds ENFP: ethical egoism, the belief that an ethical deed is, by definition, one done in self-interest, so long as you do not knowingly hurt others in the process INTP: logical positivism, the belief that all of your decisions, conclusions, and beliefs should be rooted in scientific discovery and evidence ENTP: structuralism, the belief that human social life functions as a large, overarching system or process

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