I Think A Lot About How We As A Culture Have Turned “forever” Into The Only Acceptable Definition

Relationships are not a game. Quit the “well they didn’t answer my text for two hours yesterday so now I’m gonna wait two hours to answers theirs.” Quit the “I’m not gonna tell them that I’m upset cause if they really care they’ll notice and if they don’t notice they don’t really care.” Quit the “I’m not gonna text first cause it’s their turn.” Quit all of that. If you want to talk to them, talk to them. If you want to see them, ask them if they want to hang out. If you care about them, let them know. If you have something to say, say it. Stop playing all those silly mind games. It’s a waste of everyone’s time.

Don’t hold the younger you to the standards you hold yourself to today. You didn’t know as much. You were in a different headspace, with different things affecting and scaring you, facing challenges that seemed big at the time. Maybe you were even lonelier. What’s important is that you know better now, and you know more now. That’s something to move forward with, not something to curse the past with.

everything is a learnable skill

I don’t care how problematic someone’s opinion is. They could spew the most racist, sexist trash in the world, but that person will never be worse to me than the cancel culture mob. Why? Because having an opinion isn’t an action. It can be ignored. It can be changed as the person grows. It is reversible.

You know what isn’t reversible? Murdering someone’s reputation. Ruining a life. Making death threats. Burying someone in shame with the FULL INTENTION of NEVER allowing them to become a better person, all so you can feel righteous for having “beaten the bad guy.”

Stop ruining lives. We need to learn how to express disagreement maturely. Cancel culture isn’t some ghostly all-powerful entity; it is individuals making the choice to add their screams to the mob. If you have participated, then YOU are culpable in this crime against human decency. And I know you are better than that.

We have court systems and juries to accuse people if they have committed a crime, if they have actively broken a law. Freedom of speech means having an opinion is not a crime, no matter how distasteful we find it. Hurting someone with words isn’t right, but it still is not a crime. And we should be thankful, otherwise everyone who has added their screams of hate and outrage on social media would be in prison.

Please. Let’s relearn how to love each other. Let’s relearn how to have grace with each other, educate each other, be good examples to each other so others will WANT to follow our example. No one has EVER genuinely changed their opinion because someone was degrading them as a person, and forcing everyone to follow popular opinion out of fear of public backlash isn’t freedom. It is tyranny. And it’s just going to lead to more hate.

Thank you for your time.

And there will come a day when you suddenly go, oh. That’s why. That’s why it was worth living and sticking around. I understand.

And then the moment passes, and you might forget again. But that’s okay, because life is an abundance of such moments. They will come back <3

man it's so fucking funny when I actually solve a wordle bc in my brain it makes me feel like this gif

“Just because you’re used to it, doesn’t mean it’s okay”

— Unknown

You have probably heard about multitasking a lot, but have you ever heard about monotasking? Monotasking is intentionally doing only one thing at a time to help with being stressed & overwhelmed and give your brain a break. So when you are watching a show, don't text people at the same time. When you do the dishes, simply do only the dishes. It's very relaxing and untrains your brain from the constant flood of stimuli.

“how to read more” “how to read faster” “how to read daily” STOP STOP stop STOP this is not a competition. read slowly, read when you’re in the right state of mind, really savour it, read for pleasure, read for yourself. don’t read for performance, stats or to compare yourself to others

Let me ask you a question, and be honest. Can you tell me, among all of the people that you know, how many of them are genuinely happy?

I asked myself this question earlier in the day and the answer is quite disturbing.

Not that many. Just a few of them. Most of my loved ones are struggling. Are having a rough time. Are feeling stressed, anxious, unmotivated, sad. Need support, understanding, time. And that is okay.

What I want to emphasize is that I believe we should cherish every little joy, every pleasant day, every warm smile that we experience. Because they can be so rare. Collect those precious moments within your heart and who knows, one day, you might end up exactly where you've always wanted to be.