In chapter 187 of BNHA Natsuo and Fuyumi visit Rei in the hospital at the same time that Endeavour is fighting High End.
Natsuo ends up commenting on his fathers recent promotion as number 1 hero, and though chastised by Fuyumi he expresses resentment with everything Endeavour put their family through. He claims Endeavour left them behind. This is when Rei chimes in and says she doesn’t belive that, and that she thinks he’s trying to face the family.
What proof does she have, though? After all, she herself says she hasn’t seen Endeavour in ten years. Well, the proof to her claim is this:
Rei says that Endeavour brought her that flower and remarks he remembered she liked them despite her only telling him once.
Here’s the problem I have with this though: this chapter is the one that started building Endeavours atonement, and yet for Rei to be the one to create its foundation doesn’t sit well with me because she shouldn’t be having those opinions about Endeavour. He was her abuser for a decade, and the one responsible for her pain.
A single flower shouldn’t change Reis mind.
This fixation on the flower is what reminded me of a scene from another work that creates some unnerving similarities between the two
This is the flower scene from chapter 187:
And this is the flower scene from the DC comic Mad Love:
Some context about Mad Love:
It was a comic published in 1992 by DC comics, with Paul Dini and Bruce Timm as the writers and it was the first canonical backstory of Harley Quinn (other backstories would follow after, as is the case with American comics). The comic was all about Harleys abusive relationship with the Joker and how she seemed to be unable to realise just how bad he was for her. At the end it looks like she finally realises (after Joker throws her off a building)…. and yet, while still covered in bandages from the injuries he inflicted on her, she notices a flower he left her… and changes her mind once more.
Of course it must be said that Harley is a very, very different character from Rei, but these two scenes have a lot in common:
Both are women that experienced abusive relationships
Both of them are hospitalized because of their abuser
In the hospital, both receive a flower from their abuser as a form of “apology”
In both cases the flower seems to be proof enough for them to change their mind about their abuser for the better.
Perhaps the only difference is that in Mad Love this change of heart from Harley is framed as wrong and tragic. In the foreword of the comic, Paul Dini wrote he saw Mad Love as “… a cautionary [tale] about what happens when someone loves recklessly, obsessively and for too long”.
Horikoshis intent with his scene however, seemed to be the opposite. As I said before, what Rei says about Endeavour sets up his atonement. Its meant to be a hopeful moment, a good moment. But not for Rei. For Endeavour.
Mad Love tells the victims story. Chapter 187 is there for the abusers benefit.
Now. After writing all of this:
Do I think that Horikoshi made this connection with Mad Love on purpose? NO
Do I think these similarities with Mad Love are unfortunate and damaging to Reis story? YES
Every time I read that scene in the manga or watch it in the anime I cant help but remember Mad Love. And it’s endlessly frustating that BNHA tries to frame that scene as good when it very much shouldnt be. Because there is already a story that framed a similar scene as the tragedy it very clearly was.
Reis two appearances outside of flashbacks in the manga have mostly served to develop her abusers story, but I still have some hope that she’ll be able to escape Endeavours suffocating presence in the manga and break free of his influence.
Just like Harley eventually did.
Ok! So I’ve been playing Ultra Rumble a lot. Like, A LOT. And I mainly main Dabi because I like his alpha skill and laying fire traps everywhere. But what my brain keeps on focusing on is how Dabi was probably a B-student/average kid in school.
Let me explain!
In the game you get rankings based on how you play. D being the worst and A+ the best. And Dabi’s comment are “I was so close to achieving greatness” (im paraphrasing) in C rank and “The expected outcome” for B. And for A he’ll go “you talking about me? I’m not mad.”
He takes being an average student so calmly and even expects it. He doesn’t mind it either. Yet when he gets noticed, he’s happy. Just…ughhhhh makes my brain rot start reaching because it makes it sound like THIS DUDE REALLY PUT ALL HIS EGGS INTO THE HEROICS BASKET AND THAT BASKET BROKE.
As I’m sure some may have noticed, Endeavor’s got his arc going on, where after finally realizing how horrible he is and tries to become a better person. But a problem I & many others tend to have resulting from this arc is that lots of folks talk about how Endeavor’s ‘different now’, how he’s changing, and how that makes him so much better than Thief Takami or, of course, Dabi (ugh); and as a result I think it’s important we to address is how…Bojack Horseman-y his attempts at changing have really been up until now. Think of it as in honor of Rei calling him out and hopefully forcing real progress out of him in the future, we’re going over his lack of progress so far.
So, let’s look through all his most notable attempts at changing in comparison to what he was doing before that he’s making up for, as well as anything else he’s done that might reflect in some fashion on his redemption:
-We can start with Rei; the woman who he bought, sexually abused for about a decade, psychically abused for 5 more years than that, and then had locked up in a hospital for another 10 years and which she has only just left. He tried to make up for that by having her favorite flowers delivered to her room in the hospital he had her sent to. This is about the average of what we can expect going forward, btw.
-Then there’s Fuyumi & Natsuo, who he deemed failures and neglected so much throughout their childhoods that he appears like a stranger to them, who they know more by the damage he’s done than any actual interactions. To make up for all that, he bought them a house to live away from him and not interact with him anymore, along with their mother when she leaves the hospital. (Not Shoto though, he still interreacts with Endeavor.) This is, unironically, the biggest and most selfless act of atonement he has committed thus far. All down hill from here!
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ideal version of bnha is where instead of whatever pointless bullshit was happening with deku and star n stripe we just got an entire arc of the todorokis being forced by authorities to be shuttled off somewhere for their own safety against the furious civilian masses, along with the toga and iguchi families, for a tense and brutal exploration of both the toll and stress inflicted on the families of criminals/villains, but also the ways those family environments planted the seed for those criminal acts. except it’s all framed as a sitcom where the todorokies are the collective straight man, the togas are chewing the scenery with their melodrama, and the iguchis are locked in an intense debate over whether their kid is gay and if it’s homophobic for him to be gay.