You Might Have Disappointed Some People; This Doesn’t Mean You Are A Disappointment.

“Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.”

— Paulo Coelho

reminder that anger isn't a bad emotion!! in fact, no emotions are inherently bad. your anger is usually trying to protect you. it's a part of you that wants you to be treated right. of course you should always consider your actions, and you may feel angry at someone that hasn't actually done anything wrong in which case you shouldn't lash out at them, but you're still allowed to feel angry. listen to your anger, sit with it, hear it out. maybe it's not always reasonable but that's not it's job. you're allowed to be angry.

Let me ask you a question, and be honest. Can you tell me, among all of the people that you know, how many of them are genuinely happy?

I asked myself this question earlier in the day and the answer is quite disturbing.

Not that many. Just a few of them. Most of my loved ones are struggling. Are having a rough time. Are feeling stressed, anxious, unmotivated, sad. Need support, understanding, time. And that is okay.

What I want to emphasize is that I believe we should cherish every little joy, every pleasant day, every warm smile that we experience. Because they can be so rare. Collect those precious moments within your heart and who knows, one day, you might end up exactly where you've always wanted to be.

Something doesn’t have to be important to you to be important. Just like you have things you value that other people don’t, or loved ones you care about that others have never even met, respect the fact that peoples priorities might lie elsewhere and that they find things important that you might not understand or see the point of. You become a better friend, family member, partner, roommate when you give people the space to be who they are and try to compromise whenever necessary.

“The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything.”

— Unknown

Give up trying to be the good girl. Create a reputation of being the girl whose respected. Allow this desire to guide and be reflected in your actions.

Thank you

It is okay to completely change your beliefs, ideas, intentions, boundaries, expectations and desires. You are a dynamic being. You are “supposed” to explore more and change. Change is a core part of your expansion.

Normalize people with chronic illness taking sick days, coming in late, cancelling plans, not being able do do something in time. People's illness should not be held against them like a threat and people should not act surprised if someone who is chronically ill aczually falls ill. This is not "we are ok with you as long as your illness is under control and you function normally" this is "we are aware that you are chronically ill and will actually show understanding when your illness keeps you from performing".