Get Out Of Bed, I Doubt You Have The Energy To, But That Gives You All The Reason To. All This Clutter

“The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything.”

— Unknown

Based off of this post by @ffspunk

Don’t hold the younger you to the standards you hold yourself to today. You didn’t know as much. You were in a different headspace, with different things affecting and scaring you, facing challenges that seemed big at the time. Maybe you were even lonelier. What’s important is that you know better now, and you know more now. That’s something to move forward with, not something to curse the past with.

Han Kang, from The Vegetarian

It's okay to not be satisfied with things, usually that's even when better ideas emerge. Life is a constant cycle of revisiting and reimagining and redoing. You don't have to like or accept everything just because it's been done.

When things are coming up (new workplace, a trip, a presentation) they feel scary sometimes because you’re not ready for them. The biggest mistake you can make is to think that you not being ready is just a state you’re in forever, when in reality it’s often just a matter of time. If you’re afraid, try not to use it as an excuse but as an indication that there’s room for improvement. Until the time comes, figure out what you can do in preparation, where you can ask for help, what you can practice and improve. You are dynamic: you have the ability to grow into the version of yourself who, despite the fact that they’re still a little nervous, is ready for whatever’s coming.

me, closing document: this is awful and pointless

random commenter on ao3: this made me smile (:

me, opening document: guess i’ll write 50k more

“Just because you’re used to it, doesn’t mean it’s okay”

— Unknown

Very well said

I used to think it was important to have common interests with the person that you are in a relationship with but now I think it is more important to be similar in other aspects. like how kind you are. how you treat the people you care about, how you treat strangers. how you deal with anger. how you deal with pain. and not necessarily dealing with all these things the same way but being perceptive enough to understand what action each situation calls for. it’s important for both people to be on the same page about what that action should be. it’s important to me to have that kind of synchrony.