Speaking As Someone Who's Been Outed Many, Many Times, By Both "allies" And Homo/transphobes, Some Of

Speaking as someone who's been outed many, many times, by both "allies" and homo/transphobes, some of yall are way too comfortable sharing other peoples' queer identities.

"But what if I'm trying to be funny?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm an ally?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is an ally?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm queer?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is queer?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if the person I'm talking about is a stranger?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if it's really obvious?" First of all, ew. Second of all, Doesn't matter.

"But what if they didn't come out to me, I just figured it out on my own?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if they're getting misgendered?" It's just as easy to say 'actually she's a girl' as it is to say 'actually she's transgender and uses she/her'. If that person is pretransition, it's also easy to just bite your tongue and not say anything.

Unless that person has explicitly given you permission to share that information, you DON'T. No matter how certain you are that everyone is accepting, no matter how noble your intentions, it's not your information to share. Getting clocked sucks, getting outed sucks, and they're both an invasion of privacy no matter who's doing it.

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6 months ago

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Urgent humanitarian appeal

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Can you imagine that I am now pregnant in the middle of the seventh month?🥺

I suffer from malnutrition😭 and lack of food. I am in dire need of food for my body and for my fetus that is growing in my womb I have nothing to eat like eggs, meat, and nutritious things.

I only eat bread made from flour that is full of insects and worms💔💔 I suffer from severe infections due to the contamination of the water I drink😭😭

Have you ever experienced what it feels like to be pregnant and sleep hungry💔, you and your young children?💔😭

Please help me, I do not have enough money to buy medicine I am struggling to find the price of the medicine I buy💔

There is not much left until my baby is born 😔😔and I still have not prepared clothes, milk or diapers for him💔💔 Please, for the sake of humanity, I am in dire need of your help and donation Please do not leave us alone,

you are our hope after God 🙏🙏

Your small donation saves my life and the lives of my young children💔

https://gofund.me/81e34fd0

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1 year ago

Your daily reminder that fic writers work for free!!

Please be kind to them, they are under no obligation to keep providing content, or to shape their content to your exact needs <3

1 year ago

‼️ATTENTION TUMBLR USERS‼️

📺 🚨 Emergency Broadcast 🚨 📺

‼️ATTENTION TUMBLR USERS‼️
1 year ago

tumblr i know you would eat penelope scott Up if she didn’t get her start on tiktok. your hatred for tiktok is clouding your judgement baby, this isn’t you baby i know you want to make mood boards and song fics with the sad girl cocaine music .this is a safe space i promise❤️

1 year ago
The Anxiety Of The Internet

The anxiety of the internet

7 months ago

FUCK IT for all the posts i've seen of people talking about how they want more asks everyone is still too shy to send them: so HERE

by reblogging this you are asking people to send you asks, silly cat photos, memes, oc infodumps, random headcanons, wips, questions about your ocs and faves, or litterally just saying 'hi'

I will personally be visiting the inboxes of my moots/followers who reblog this, I have quite the hamster photo collection in need of sharing

5 months ago

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Urgent humanitarian appeal

🥺💔😭

Can you imagine that I am now pregnant in the middle of the seventh month?🥺

I suffer from malnutrition😭 and lack of food. I am in dire need of food for my body and for my fetus that is growing in my womb I have nothing to eat like eggs, meat, and nutritious things.

I only eat bread made from flour that is full of insects and worms💔💔 I suffer from severe infections due to the contamination of the water I drink😭😭

Have you ever experienced what it feels like to be pregnant and sleep hungry💔, you and your young children?💔😭

Please help me, I do not have enough money to buy medicine I am struggling to find the price of the medicine I buy💔

There is not much left until my baby is born 😔😔and I still have not prepared clothes, milk or diapers for him💔💔 Please, for the sake of humanity, I am in dire need of your help and donation Please do not leave us alone,

you are our hope after God 🙏🙏

Your small donation saves my life and the lives of my young children💔

https://gofund.me/81e34fd0

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1 month ago

no problem! :)

Hi :D

kinda random ask but: your username is 'stoat on toast'...could you draw a stoat on toast? bonus points if it's cute and bonus bonus points if drawing it makes you happy :)

Hi :D
Hi :D

two sleepy boys

(it did :))

1 year ago
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!
Greetings Bugs And Worms!

Greetings bugs and worms!

This comic is a little different than what I usually do but I worked real hard on it—Maybe I'll make more infographic stuff in the future this ended up being fun. Hope you learned something new :)

If you are still curious and want to learn more about OCD, you can visit the International OCD Foundation's website. I also recommend this amazing TED ED video "Starving The Monster", which was my first introduction to the disorder and this video by John Green about his own experience with OCD.

The IOCDF's website can also help you find support groups, therapy, and has lots of online guides and resources as well if you or a loved one is struggling with the disorder. It is very comprehensive!

Reblog to teach your followers about OCD

(But also not reblogging doesn't make you evil, silly goose)

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