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pride month soon!! if you treat bisexuality or asexuality as “lesser” queer identities, “basically straight”, or a “consolation prize”, die by my blade.

your mental health is a priority your happiness is a priority your self-care is a priority your existence is a priority

How do i love myself???

I've been meaning to write something like this for a while!

First off, what is self love?

I consider self love to be compassion towards yourself. Aware of your flaws, and aware of your good traits, but not hinging your sense of worth on either. I think of it as similar to characters people like - oftentimes our favorite characters are highly flawed people, and it's not that we love them despite those flaws, but we love the whole picture and want to see those characters grow.

How do you learn to love yourself?

I think it takes time! It's not something you can learn overnight, but something that comes with going through life.

And I think another important thing to remember is that baby steps are great, and it's absolutely okay if you don't love yourself right now. Your journey will take time. It might be a huge accomplishment for you to be self neutral - being okay with yourself and being neutral in your skin, even if you don't 'love' yourself. Here's a short blog post that talks about self neutrality!

Something simple you can do to change how you think of yourself is replace things like "ugh, I'm so stupid" with more neutral self talk, like "whoops, I made a mistake!" Your mind is listening to things you say to yourself, so work on replacing negativity with kindness.

Resources

Who Am I? Worksheet: Helps you enhance self awareness by looking at other people's perception of you, and your own perception of yourself (you can print and handwrite or just type your answers on a doc, whatever's easier for you)

'Love Letter' to Myself Worksheet: Helps self love by having you write down things you love about yourself, how they benefit you, and how you can continue to honor them

Loving Kindness Meditation: If meditation is your thing, loving kindness meditations are amazing! Essentially, they have you direct statements like "may I be happy, may I be well, may I be peaceful, may I be loved" at yourself, then a close friend, then an acquiantance, etc. I've linked my favorite one here, that I've done countless times. But if that particular recording isn't doing it for you you can search "loving kindness meditations" on youtube, spotify, etc and see what you like!

Ways to practice self love: An article that I really liked, because the author talked about how she'd pinned her sense of worth on her accomplishments and learning to let go of that.

You can also go through my self love tag! I use it for strategies, as well as things that you might have needed to hear.

Baneful Spellwork positive post

There are so many valid, reasonable, understandable things that would warrant a practitioner casting a baneful spell against someone else.

Your biggest ally in a baneful working: GIVE YOUR SUBJECT AN "OUT"

a change in behavior, a sincere apology, returned items. Whatever your reason is for your working, give them a way to break it themselves.

Pavlov that fucker into righting their own wrongs. "If you're honest, genuine, & kind, things will start to go your way again. If you continue in your malice, your life will fall apart."

In my personal practice, I don't follow any bastardized karmic retribution, or a rule of three. I believe that the Universe is a perfect balance of positive & negative forces, and it isn't fond of anything throwing that balance too far off kilter.

Without a "breaker" built in, your spell will eventually start to backfire. And it will backfire in the direction it came from.

Gregory Orr, In an Interview with Krista Tippett

Magical girl transformations are literally never not hype. I’m never sick of them, idk how many times I see them or how much episode time they take up or if they make any sense at all they are always awesome. I don’t even have to give a shit about the characters or the show I see a magical girl transformation and my brain just goes

my illiterate ass rereading smth a billion times only to end up posting a sentence with the most horrendous mistakes

Is there a poem/poems that mentions a specific type of flower? Like gor dxample “carnations” I was at a flower shop and that came to my mind

there are TONS of them! and here is only a small selection of some i remember but there are probably hundreds more

Louise Glück has written many: “The White Lilies” “Blue Rotunda” “The Wild Iris” “The Silver Lily” “Trillium” “The Red Poppy” “Hyacinth”

Mary Oliver too ♡ “The Sunflowers” “Peonies” “Poppies” “The Roses” “Daisies” “Roses, Late Summer” “When the Roses Speak, I Pay Attention” “Violets” “Blue Iris”

“Tulips” by Sylvia Plath

“Cherry Blossoms” by Toi Derricotte

“White Clover” by Marvin Bell

“Orchids Are Sprouting From the Floorboards” by Kaveh Akbar

“To Describe an Almond Blossom” by Mahmoud Darwish

love really just is *sharing blankets* *driving together in silence* *this song made me think of you* *i made them for you* *having the most fun just talking* *cold hands warm hearts* *i got home safe* *you said you needed one so i found one for you*

ATTENTION

If you see this you are OBLIGATED to reblog w/ the song currently stuck in your head :)