Luckily, I only know of one headmate who identifies as female (I the host am transmasc, physically transitioning the body), and unfortunately I don’t have good enough communication with her to really know how she feels about things, but the nonbinary ones I know of are chill with the body regardless of gender, though they like to present their own ways. Some of the other guys in here and I get really dysphoric, so I think transitioning was definitely the right choice, but to a point none of us will feel 100% comfortable, so it’s just something we have to live with (I feel so bad for the nonhumans, they get super dysphoric about being the wrong species, and it’s rough on our littlest one to be in a grown-up body). I don’t really have answers, but imo it’s a process and you’ll be able to figure out what works for you and your system in time <3
DID is fucking with my gender rlly bad and my friend said I should reach out so. Trans systems with complicated genders reblog so I know ur out there???
I would love to hear ur experiences bc I’m getting my ass kicked by gender
"Bases" in 2010:
1. Kissing 😖
2. Touching 😳
3. Handjob 😵💫
4. Heterosexual penetrative sex 😵
"Bases" in 2025:
1. Spotify Playlist 🎵
2. Gay anal sex 😎
3. Cracking a cold one with the boys 🍻
4. Meet the 5-year-old alter 🧸
system protip: if trying to keep track of your switches and fragments feels impossible and is driving you crazy, stop doing it. or at the very least dont put as much weight into making it perfect. you dont need to track every switch, you dont need every fragment logged. sometimes its easier to just exist as a system than drive yourself up the wall trying to micromanage everything about your system
I do not know Who is reblogging landscape photos for the people they think they match, but I can already tell my feed is going to be nothing but pictures of forests and Japan for the next seven days :|
I just heard someone go "Oh yeah Onyx is a cool name" after seeing the name... It didn't sound like a familiar voice... Uh oh
There's a high chance it might've just been some guy we already know but-
We'll see
Being plural sometimes is being super deep in a self destructive maladaptive daydreaming session and having another alter *literally* shake you back to being aware, being able to give them hugs and have someone to cry on while you try and ground yourself. An extreme act of love and care.
Other times the little bitch that runs this blog steals AN ENTIRE HALF GALLON OF MY CHOCOLATE MILK AND THE LAST OF MY HOMEMADE BBQ SAUCE
May you're a bitch and imma eat whenever snacks our boyfriend buys you next /hj
-Eef
cracks knuckles ok can we stop acting like alters who stand up for themselves and/or the system are persecutors? can we stop acting like blunt headmates are persecutors? can we stop acting like generally aggressive headmates are persecutors? can we stop acting like headmates that aren't afraid to protect themselves and/or the system are persecutors, even if they go "overboard"? can we stop acting like headmates with social issues and take a while to warm up to new people are persecutors? can we stop demonizing persecutors? can we start listening when headmates say they aren't persecutors or don't want to be referred to in that way? can we be normal about persecutors?
it/its pronouns are not inherently dehumanizing, unless the user wants them to be. it/its pronouns aren't weird. it/its pronouns aren't too hard to use. people who only use it/its pronouns need to have this be respected no matter what your beliefs are. you don't get to single out people with "weird" pronouns and misgender us and use incorrect pronouns. accept someone who uses it/its as you support someone who uses they/them. there's nothing wrong with it/its pronouns. respect its users.
The sucky thing about being plural and trans is that not everyone inside has figured out my pronouns and some still unintentionally default to feminine terms and she/her pronouns for me and some of the other guys, which just really sucks. I know one or two headmates use she/her pronouns but boy do I want the one caretaker I don’t know well to stop calling me a girl when comforting me :((
THE PLURAL COMMUNITY NEEDS TO FIGURE OUT THAT PRYING ABOUT PEOPLES TRAUMA MAKES YOU A FUCKING BITCH. PEOPLE LOVE TO GET UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL. FUCKING TRY IT, I BITE
Not super active because plural communities intimidate me (the host, Jay) but trying to be more open so I don’t suppress things Again. No clue how my system formed, but I’m definitely endo supportive.
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