Coming Out Of My Cage And

*crushes my emotions with my bare hands* as I was saying,

You know you're an NTP when #117

it’s Friday night and you’re on the Internet.

hahahaha yup

ENTP Things

You’re really smart but you prefer to make people think you’re an idiot so that they expect less from you.

10 things ENTPs want you to know about them (us):

1. We are sense makers. We try and make sense of things. We do this all the time and we do it by making connections between bits and pieces of information relating to things we saw, heard, read, etc. that we most have at our disposal.

2. We understand that the world is complex, people are complex, their problems are complex, their feelings are complex, and their ideas are certainly complex. We work very hard to break down those complexities into something that is easier for us to understand and explain to others. Unfortunately, sometimes it comes off as obnoxious.

3. We can be very social and outgoing, however, underneath that friendly exterior is an often misunderstood (not so much MIS-understood more like NOT understood) person longing to find someone who sees through (transparently through) us and realizes that we too are complex (very complex).

4. We try and make the world a better place by concocting big ideas. Nothing makes us happier than sharing those ideas with others (many, few, or just one person).

5. We see potential in lots and lots of things (not everything, but lots) and can sometimes get lost by all the paths we could follow. Making us commit to one path or another, whether a relationship, a career, a place to live, is NOT easy. It takes a special person, job, location, for us to close the door on all other possibilities. We just might, in due time.

6. Just because we are thinkers doesn’t mean we don’t have feelings. We do. Lots of them. But, most times, those feelings are pushed aside. We push them aside. For us to actually delve into our own feelings and deal with them is to enter a world we are mostly unaware of (and unfamiliar with). It can be a bit scary for us.

7. To further the previous point, unlike our own feelings, we are somewhat insightful about other people’s feelings (at least more than our own). As thinkers, we tend to dissect, analyze, and communicate our thoughts about those feelings from a logical standpoint.

8. Because of our ability to see lots of different perspectives, we are fairly good at interacting with different kinds of people including children. We can intuitively understand children particularly if we can adapt ourselves to their way of seeing things. (Disclaimer: I myself am not a parent; any input by parents would be appreciated.)

9. We have big hearts, but… we are protective of them because we know the consequences of being vulnerable. So for us to commit and open up to someone means that we fully trust that person and believe that he or she will not hurt us. If they do hurt us, it means to us that our intuition was wrong. It would be very hard if not impossible to regain that trust again.

10. MBTI is a really insightful tool for ENTPs because it helps us make sense of things we otherwise might not have understood. It helps us relate to INFJs who are otherwise a big (huge) mystery to us. But also people in our everyday lives (especially those we otherwise butt heads with). Once discovering MBTI, we probably got really (really) excited and ran around telling everyone we know about it, explaining all the conceptual nuances of it, typing people and explaining to them how this theory plays out in their lives. After all, we’re just trying to help them out. Let’s just hope they thought so too

THE ENNEAGRAM INVENTORY

ONES 1.     I like to be organized and orderly. 2.     It is difficult for me to be spontaneous. 3.     I often feel guilty about not getting enough accomplished. 4.     I don’t like it when people break rules. 5.     Incorrect grammar and spelling bother me a lot. 6.     I am idealistic. I want to make the world a better place. 7.     I am almost always on time. 8.     I hold on the resentment for a long time. 9.     I think of myself as being practical, reasonable, and realistic. 10.   When jealous, I become fearful and competitive. 11.   Either I don’t have enough time to relax or I think I shouldn’t relax. 12.   I tend to see things in terms of right or wrong, good or bad. 13.   I analyze major purchases very thoroughly before I make them. 14.   I dread being criticized or judged by others. 15.   I often compare myself with others. 16.   Truth and justice are very important to me. 17.   I often feel that time is running out and there is too much left to do. 18.   I almost always do what I say I will do. 19.   I worry almost constantly. 20.   I love making every detail perfect. TWOS 1.     I want people to feel comfortable coming to me for guidance and advice. 2.     Relationships are more important to me than almost anything. 3.     Sometimes I feel overburdened by people’s dependence on me. 4.     I have trouble asking for what I need. 5.     I crave, yet sometimes fear, intimacy. 6.     I am more comfortable giving than receiving. 7.     I am very sensitive to criticism. 8.     I work hard to overcome all obstacles in a relationship. 9.     I try to be as sensitive and tactful as possible. 10.   When I am alone I know what I want, but when I am with others, I am not sure. 11.   It is very important that others feel comfortable and welcome in my home. 12.   I don’t want my dependence to show. 13.   Watching violence on television and seeing people suffer is unbearable. 14.   Sometimes I feel a deep sense of loneliness. 15.   If I don’t get the closeness I need, I feel sad, hurt, and unimportant. 16.   Sometimes I get physically ill and emotional drained from taking care of everyone else.       17.   I often figure out what others would like in a person, than act that way. 18.   I enjoy giving compliments and telling people that they are special to me. 19.   I am attracted to being with important or powerful people. 20.   People have said I exaggerate too much and am overly emotional. THREES 1.     I am almost always busy. 2.     I like to make to-do lists, progress charts, and schedules for myself. 3.     I don’t mind being asked to work overtime. 4.     I have an optimistic attitude. 5.     I go full force until I get the job done. 6.     I believe in doing things as expediently as possible. 7.     It is important for people to better themselves and live up to their potential. 8.     I’m not interested in talking a lot about my personal life. 9.     I try not to let illness stop me from doing anything. 10.   I hate to see jobs undone. 11.   I tend to put work before other things. 12.   I can’t understand people who are bored. I never run out of things to do. 13.   It is sometimes difficult for me to get in touch with my feelings. 14.   I work very hard to take care of and provide for my family. 15.   I like identifying with competent groups or important people. 16.   I try to present myself well and make a good first impression. 17.   Financial security is extremely important to me. 18.   I generally feel pretty good about myself. 19.   People often look to me to run the show. 20.   I like to stand out in some way. FOURS 1.     Being understood is very important to me. 2.     My friends say they enjoy my warmth and my different way of looking at life. 3.     I can become nonfunctional for hours, days, or weeks when I’m depressed. 4.     I am very sensitive to critical remarks and feel hurt at the tiniest slight. 5.     It really affects me emotionally when I read upsetting stories in the newspaper. 6.     My ideals are very important to me. 7.     I cry easily. Beauty, love, sorrow, and pain really touch me. 8.     My melancholy moods are real and important. I don’t necessarily want to get out of them. 9.     I often long for what others have. 10.   I try to support my friends, especially when they are in crisis. 11.   I live in the past and in the future more than in present–day reality. 12.   I place great importance on my intuition. 13.   I try to control people at times. 14.   I hate insincerity and lack of integrity in others. 15.   I have spent years longing for the great love of my life to come along 16.   I focus on what is wrong with me rather than on what is right. 17.   I like to be seen as one of a kind. 18.   I am always searching for my true self. 19.   Sometimes I feel very uncomfortable and different, like an isolated outsider, even when I’m with my friends. 20.   When people tell me what to do, I often become rebellious and do, or wish I could do, the opposite. FIVES 1.     I learn from observing or reading as opposed to doing. 2.     It’s hard to express my feelings in the moment. 3.     I get lost in my interests and like to be alone with them for hours. 4.     I usually experience my feelings more deeply when I’m by myself. 5.     Sometimes I feel guilty that I’m not generous enough. 6.     I try to conceal my sensitivity to criticism and judgment 7.     Brash, loud people offend me. 8.     Conforming is distasteful to me. 9.     I like to associate with others who have expertise in my field. 10.   I like having a title (doctor, professor, administrator) to feel proud of. 11.   I have been accused of being negative, cynical, and suspicious. 12.   When I feel socially uncomfortable, I often wish could disappear. 13.   I am often reluctant to be assertive or aggressive. 14.   I dislike most social events. I’d rather be alone or with a few people I know well. 15.   I sometimes feel shy or awkward. 16.   I get tired when I’m with people for too long. 17.   I feel different from most people. 18.   I feel invisible. It surprises when anyone notices anything about me. 19.   I don’t look for material possessions to make me happy. 20.   Acting calm is a defense. It makes me feel stronger. SIXES 1.     I am nervous around certain authority figures. 2.     I am often plagued by doubt. 3.     I like to have clear-cut guidelines and to know where I stand. 4.     I am always on the alert for danger. 5.     I take things too seriously. 6.     I constantly question myself about what might go wrong. 7.     I often experience criticism as an attack. 8.     I often obsess about what my partner is thinking. 9.     I can be a very hard worker. 10.   My friends think of me as loyal, supportive, and compassionate. 11.   I’ve been told I have a good sense of humor. 12.   I follow rules closely (a phobic trait); or I often break rules (a counterphobic trait). 13.  The more vulnerable I am in my intimate relationship, the more anxious and testy I become. 14.   I tend to either procrastinate or plunge headlong, even into dangerous situations. 15.   I am very aware of people trying to manipulate me with flattery. 16.   I like predictability. 17.   I have sabotaged my own success. 18.   I can support people through thick and thin. 19.   I like being neat and orderly. It helps me feel more in control of my life. 20.   I dislike pretension in people SEVENS 1.     I enjoy life. I am generally uninhibited and optimistic. 2.     I don’t like being made to feel obligated or beholden. 3.     I am busy and energetic. I seldom get bored if left to do what I want. 4.     I often take verbal or physical risks. 5.     I usually pick upbeat friends who have similar goals. 6.     I’m not an expert in any one thing, but I can do many things well. 7.     My style is to go back and forth from one task to another. I like to keep moving. 8.     I seem to let go of grievances and recover from loss faster than most people I know. 9.     I like myself and I’m good to myself. 10.   I like people and they usually like me. 11.   I usually manage to get what I want. 12.   I value quick wit. 13.   I am idealistic. I want to contribute something to the world. 14.   I vacillate between feeling committed and wanting my freedom and independence. 15.   I am often at ease in groups. 16.   When people are unhappy, I usually try to get them to lighten up and see the bright side. 17.   I love excitement and travel. 18.   Sometimes I feel inferior and sometimes I feel superior to others. 19.   I usually way whatever is on my mind. Sometimes it gets me into trouble. 20.   I can make great sacrifices to help people. EIGHTS 1.     I can be assertive and aggressive when I need to be. 2.     I can’t stand being used or manipulated. 3.     I value being direct and honest; I put my cards on the table. 4.     I am an individualist and a nonconformist. 5.     I respect people who stand up for themselves. 6.     I will go to any lengths to protect those I love 7.     I fight for what is right. 8.     I support the underdog. 9.     Making decisions is not difficult for me. 10.   Self–reliance and independence are important. 11.   I have overindulged in food or drugs. 12.   Some people take offense of my bluntness. 13.   When I enter a new group, I know immediately who the most powerful person is. 14.   I work hard and I know how to get things done. 15.   In a group I am sometimes an observer rather than a participant. 16.   I like excitement and stimulation. Sometimes I like to spar with people, especially when I feel safe. 17.   I am vulnerable and loving when I really trust someone. 18.   Overly nice or flattering people bother me. 19.   Pretense is particularly distasteful to me. NINES 1.     I often feel in union with nature and people. 2.     Making choices can be very difficult. I can see the advantages and disadvantages of every option. 3.     It is sometimes hard for me to know what I want when I’m with other people. 4.     Others see me as peaceful, but inside I often feel anxious. 5.     Instead of tacking what I really need to do, I sometimes do little unimportant things. 6.     When there is unpleasantness going on around me, I just try to think about something else for a while. 7.     I usually prefer walking away from a disagreement to confronting someone. 8.     If I don’t have some routine and structure in my day, I get almost nothing done. 9.     I tend to put things off until the last minute, but I almost always get them done. 10.   I like to be calm and unhurried, but sometimes I overextend myself. 11.   When people try to tell me what to do or try to control me, I get stubborn. 12.   I like to be sure to have time in my day for relaxing. 13.   Sometimes I feel shy and unsure of myself. 14.   I enjoy just hanging out with my partner or friends. 15.   Supportive and harmonious relationships are very important to me. 16.   I am very sensitive about being judged and take criticism personally. 17.   I like to listen and give people support. 18.   I focus more on the positive than on the negative. 19.   I have trouble getting rid of things. 20.   I operate under the principle of inertia: if I’m going, it’s easy to keep going, but I sometimes have a hard time getting started.

The ENTP Awkward Phase

The ENTP awkward phase is a time, normally in the teen years, where the naturally goofy and loveable ENTP, represses themselves in order to fit in.

The problem with this is that ENTPs are well… naturally unique. Not everyone is like them which is why they’re one of the rarer personalities. Yet they want to fit in somewhat and to do this, they start repressing their naturally unique personality. It could be their weirdness, their loudness, their talkative nature, their annoyingness or anything really. But repressing it feels awful and it can lead the ENTP to feeling really upset.

When in this phase, ENTPs may fit in, but can still come across as rather introverted or just awkward. Yet this frustrates the ENTP because they know that that isn’t themselves at their best, and it feels like barely anyone knows what they’re actually like.

It can be hard to break out of this phase and be your happy ENTP self again, but the key is to not care about others. Their expectations shouldn’t be stopping you from being yourself. It doesn’t matter if they think you’re kind or not, what matters is your happiness and if being yourself upsets them, then that’s too bad.

As an ENTP, your charm comes from your weird and loveable personality and by repressing it, you’re no longer special.

Once you can accept your personality you won’t be acting or repressing yourself. Instead you’ll enjoy being yourself and find that everyone else is naturally drawn to you when you can do that sincerely.

IT’S SO HARD TRYING TO LET YOU GO BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T BOTHER SAYING GOODBYE YOU JUST TOOK MY HEART AND FUCKING LEFT.

has this happened to you? (via ashleymacleanblog)

Stupid enfp

(via entpalloverme)

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SO-blind pros and cons:

pros

- quality interactions are the norm

- healthier approach to relationships, being alone is always better than being with people who aren’t good for us

- generally loyal, genuine, and altruistic in our relationships

- less bullshit, people usually know where they stand with us

- less affected by others’ opinions, confidence is internally generated

- less superficial/materialistic, it’s about the way things are rather than how they look

- more critical of societal norms and unwilling to play along with stupid or toxic practices

- prioritize health, safety, and meaningful relationships above reputation

- actually mind our own damn business

cons

- sometimes too rigorous about our “screening” for friends/cutting people off because they don’t meet the bar we’ve set

- constantly feeling like a misfit/outcast

- actually might be an outcast. at least we seem to constantly leave behind groups and situations because we inevitably reach the disillusionment stage

- hard to impress

- can be cold, hurtful, bad at validating people and insensitive of others’ feelings unless they’re somehow important to us (read: meet our nearly impossible standards)

- overly rebellious or non-compliant, needlessly critical of society and rules

- may talk to people but have no intention of bonding, which confuses people when they realize the SO-blind in question never considered them a friend

- do not understand why people care if we wear pajamas in public (I think this is a con because I actually don’t get why it matters?)

- *forcibly self-isolates* *doesn’t talk to people* *is constantly rude and blunt* “why am I alone”

The real glo up is when you stop waiting to turn into some perfect hypothetical version of yourself and consciously enjoy being who you are in the present moment.

weird noises: happen in the wee hours

me, unaffected: the only supernatural and ominous force in this place is me and i was here first, so whatever and whoever you are you need to Go