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Okay… I’m going to rant about one of my colleagues and his reaction to Captain Marvel…

So please… watch out for spoilers and don’t read this if you haven’t watched the movie, and watch out also for some idiotic man… but I’m so pissed I have to let it out somewhere, and I’m sorry, it has fallen upon you all. Feel free to ignore.

So, my collegue went to see Captain Marvel this weekend too. And he is the perfect definition of evil… (honestly, he was okay before but now I’m so mad at him…).

So basically, we talked about the movie at lunch, and there was several things that bothered him. But I will spare you the details, and get to the point.

It all started because he thought Carol didn’t have such a great evolution through the movie, and that she was pretty much perfect at the beginning and still perfect at the end (which was not something wrong to say, only debatable, and I tried to debate with him on the matter, which is where it got out of hand).

So, I explained to him that there was actually a development of the character, as she started as a soldier forced to obey orders and control her emotions to a hero who listens to her heart and accepts herself fully instead of trying to fill up the case that had been created for her. But most importantly, it was all about emancipation : as a woman who had been told all her life that she couldn’t do this, and that, and that she should be more like this or like that, and then as a warrior to whom, once more, people dictated how she should be, the moment she controlled fully her powers was when she rose above it all and was merely herself, without all this toxic talk and pressure that had prevented her to live up to what she had always been capable of. And that was when she became a hero.

And here is when he pissed me off.

Because he was like :‘It’s a little exagerated to see it like that. She wasn’t always brainwashed and controlled.’

So I rose up to that and reminded him all the flashbacks where since childhood people tried to mold her into what a girl should be for society.

To what he replied: 'Hey, it’s a movie, it’s not that bad in real life, especially today. It was worth at the time the movie took place but today it’s not like that.’

To which I replied an aghast : 'Yes, it’s still like that. You just don’t know it’s still like that cause you’re a man, and you were not confronted to this problem, but trust me, as a woman, I can tell you that it’s still relevent.’

And if I already wanted to slap him with his previous answer, I wanted to punch him with the next remark:

'Now, I’m sorry, but you’re wrong, it’s not what happens anymore.“

Like… the guy had the audacity to tell ME, a woman, that he knew better than ME how women are treated.

He then started to give me a thousand arguments about how there was actually 0 sexism in our society and that on the contrary, it was harder for men than for women.

I tried to fight back, and I’m sorry to have to admit that I lost it at one point and merely walked away before I would lose my job for punching a colleague. I wish I could say that I made him change his mind, but he was too stubborn and got me too angry for me to do that.

And he calls himself a feminist.

And I realized today that this kind of guy is a dangerous enemy for us, who wraps it all with sugar, and doesn’t see women as inferiors as such (at least that’s what he pretends), but will do whatever he can to stop any progress in our favour because he will find that it’s not 'fair for men’.

He did have the audacity to tell me that the fact that women are on average less paid than men was not true and a mere manipulation of numbers… we had a movement at my workplace for Women’s International Day, and were encouraged to leave our workplace at 15h40 instead of 17h30 because after that hour we are not paid, if we compare ourselves to men (I couldn’t leave that early because of my experiments, but I did leave earlier than usual). Like… it happened at your workplace. We received emails about it. And you are denying it?!?! On which planet are you living man?!?

Oh, I almost forgot that beautiful moment where, when I talked about the flashbacks and that they were examples of all these things she had been denied or mocked about because she was a woman, he clearly didn’t get the point of the movie, because he was like: 'well, she does fail everytime…’

No, man, she doesn’t fail, she GETS UP AGAIN. And that’s why she’s a hero even before her fists can throw energy. Because she fights against it all. And that is also an example that shows that EVERYTHING is more difficult for us, because of this behaviour men have towards us. He obviously didn’t agree with that explanation (I wasn’t surprised at that point).

Now, one last bit that pissed me off so much too was that he didn’t like the fact that she was so powerful. He was like :'what about Thor and the rest of the superheroes then?’

So I replied with an earnest: 'well, they’re still there. And they’re still great. And they still have powers. She’s just BETTER than them all. It doesn’t mean that they’re individually less powerful, she’s just MORE powerful than them all.’

He was very grumpy about this explanation, and was comparing her to Thor. And he was basically saying that the rest of the heroes would be useless with a character so powerful. To which I answered with a simple example :

Thor is the GOD of Thunder. He is more powerful than Hawkeye or Captain America, for example. (He did agree to that).

Now, Thor is MUCH MORE powerful than the rest of them, let’s be honest. I gave him some examples of his powers and he gladly agreed that he was stronger than Steve, for example. I then asked him if he thought that Steve was useless and not interesting. And he said no. I asked him if he thought that because Thor existed, the Captain was made uninteresting. And he said no.

So I brought upon him the truth: Carol is merely to Thor what Thor is to Steve. They are all interesting characters and they are all useful in different ways, one is simply more powerful than the other.

Even with this flawless logic I couldn’t bring him to realize that he was just not accepting it because she was a woman… (and it was clearly the case, trust me, it was actually the problem here).

I also told him that Thor would be the first fangirling over Carol and her powers as the example of anti-toxic-masculinity that he is. And he wasn’t convinced here again (clearly, he doesn’t understand the characters at al…)

So… sorry for the long rant but I am still pissed at him. And he is just such a dangerous guy in the end because he acts like he’s all for equality between men and women and everything, but as soon as one is stronger than a bunch of men, it’s the end of his world. And he is one of the sneaky ones who seem to be okay at first but will then slow down everything we try to improve. So fight the sneaky ones too, ladies. We need to bring these ones down too.

On the other hand, a friend of mine is a huge fan and he has spent the weekend repeating how Carol was amazing and it was awesome to finally have a superhero movie led by a woman that filled the theater with some real feminism the right way. And he too can’t wait to see Thor fangirling over Carol. He is one of the good ones, and I love him a lot.