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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

not a dream

this might be a little different, but today I am here to expose vile behavior of a white tiktok user that has gained 30,000 followers on harassing Korean men, and getting away with it by trying to appear/be cute

although she’s deleted most of her videos by now (she probably got called out before or received rightful backlash), her account used to be full of proof of such behavior, and she recently went back to posting similar content (does she think people forgot?)

grabbing random people you don’t even know and forcing your touch and hugs on them is sexual harassment and abuse

her @ is 8_alesha

this screenshot of her account was sent to me, and that’s how I became aware of her vile behavior

she’s catering to her fellow koreaboo young audience by continuing on to do stuff like this, and I don’t think she should be allowed to get away with it anymore

before she deletes her most recents, here she is grabbing a random boy on the streets, making him uncomfortable, posing with him and trying to appear cute while he is trying to get away

here’s another example - it’s clear that the boys and men in her videos don’t know how to react and are uncomfortable, but she’s getting away with everything because she knows they’re all too polite to make a scene and are caught off guard

this is so messed up

does anyone have any idea what can be done? can her account be reported? I’ve heard this kind of behavior is a trend among some white tiktokers living in Korea and Japan and that they have a niche audience of kids who eat this up, which is so messed up, we should not be normalizing this kind of abhorrent behavior

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sarahxy537

6 years ago

💚💚

Happy Birthday, Moon Taeil! ♡

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sarahxy537

7 years ago

Reblog if you love Taeyong

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sarahxy537

4 years ago

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sarahxy537

4 years ago

I love how confident he is with them on. I wish men would use this kind of clothing, female-labeled clothing, without feeling “less masculine.”

yes

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sarahxy537

4 years ago

A list of things that do not make you weak:

Meltdowns/shutdowns

Anxiety attacks/panic attacks

Having triggers

Phases (including finding you identify as something different than you thought with gender/sexuality. The phrase it’s just a phase is bullshit and means nothing)

Mental/physical disabilities

Chronic illnesses

Ptsd

Getting sick

Crying

Emotions

Mental illnesses

Being neurodivergent

Being able-bodied/neurotypical

Being lgbt+

Not being lgbt+

A list of things that do make you weak:

Being an ableist asshole

Being an abusive asshole

Being a transphobic asshole

Being a sexist asshole

Being a racist asshole

Being an lgbt-phobic asshole

Putting other people down because arbitrary reasons

Taking away someone’s identity

This isn’t a full list by any means but if it reassures even one person then it has done more than enough

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sarahxy537

3 years ago

@enhas-bestie I already did it but will do it again because… why not? I’ll use songs I didn’t in the first one

S - Say My Name - Ateez

A - A - Got7

R - Rebirth - Red Velvet

A - Angel - Hoya

H - Heartbreaker - NCT 127

X - X&Y - Coldplay

Y - Yo No Sé Mañana

5 - 5star Incompletion - A.C.E

3 - 3rd Eye - Stray Kids

7 - 7월 7일 One Of These Nights - Red Velvet

Tagging whoever wants to do it :)

Song Tag 📻

Big thank you to the wonderful @dumdumsun for the tag! 😌🤲💝

Rules: spell out your URL with song titles. Then tag as many people as there are letters in your URL**

Y ━ You Only Want Me When You’re Lonelyby Jim Boyd

U ━ Under The Milky Way by The Church

R ━ Right Back Where We Started From by Maxine Nightingale

T ━ The End of the World by Skeeter Davis

L ━ Look On The Bright Side Of Life by Monty Python

E ━ Eve of Destruction by Barry McGuire

T ━ The Bitch Is Back by Elton John

H ━ Harold Jenkins by Igtoluh

E ━ Earth by Sleeping at Last

T ━ Time Warp by Little Nell, Patricia Quinn, Richard O'Brian from The Rocky Horror Picture Show

U ━ Unwind Yourself by Marva Whitney

R ━ Reconsider Baby by Elvis Presley

T ━ This Year’s Love by David Gray

L ━ Live and Let Die by Paul McCartney, Wings

E ━ Eight by Sleeping at Last

H ━ Hello Walls by Willie Nelson

E ━ Everybody (Backstreet’s Back) by Backstreet Boys

N ━ Night’s In White Satin by The Moody Blues

D ━ Dancing in the Moonlight by King Harvest

E ━ End Of The Line by Traveling Wilburys

R ━ Reflecting Light by Sam Phillips

S ━ Sweet Dreams (Are Made of This) by Eurythmics

O ━ Only You (And You Alone) by The Platters

N ━ Never Tear Us Apart by Paloma Faith

♡ no pressure, no specific order tag ♡: @emo-space-tea @witch-of-all-things-soft @ongaku-ato-kakikomi @night-yoarrbe @shawkneecaps @terrazaurio @ohmyitsfaith @ba-responds @bex-stranger-things @omni-idiot-fanfics @little-boats-on-a-lake @a-girl-who-loves-disney @whatawonderfulusername @vicassa @white-wolf-buckaroo @guineverebeckilicious @alpacataco @okimreadynow @onlyroad @popacherryvisitalibrary @disaster-magician @lonerstolovers ━ this basically ended up being the taglist since i sadly dont have that many mutuals 💀 feel free to ignore if you want, loves!

**I added my own little challenge for my own sake cause I wanted to narrow things down—these are from my growing playlist for a WIP of mine, [hence some of the weird choices] TSU! But of course that was just me, anyone is free to do the tag game normally or however they want

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sarahxy537

4 years ago

Reblogging because it need to be heard and it’s important.

Why continuing to support Ateez might actually be important/helpful for preventing cultural appropriation in the future

I would like to preface this by saying that I am a person of colour but I am not black. I can and do empathise with black Atiny though I also acknowledge that I cannot fully understand how this affects them. Pain and hurt is always valid and the black community have suffered in ways most of us have not.

At the same time, I am really sick and tired of ‘cancel culture’ and the lack of nuance when discussing issues such as cultural appropriation. They prevent us from having useful discussions and facilitating change. So let’s break down this issue:

The problem: In a promotional photo for their next comeback, Kim Hongjoong, the leader of Ateez, was styled with cornrows. This is a case of cultural appropriation.

The response: Fans emailed KQ Entertainment asking for this hairstyle to be changed and KQ responded saying a) this was not done with conscious effort to appropriate/insult another culture, but that they did it to fit with the concept, b) they cannot re-make any of the content that has been completed for album promotions, c) they will ensure that Hongjoong will not wear this hairstyle during album promotions and d) they will apply what they have learned to future comebacks and ensure that this will not happen again.

Reasons why KQ Entertainment was in the wrong:

Entertainment companies need to start putting resources into educating themselves and their artists. All you need is one (1) person who’s job it is to go over concept ideas. I don’t understand why RESEARCH INTO CONCEPT IDEAS AND THEIR ORIGINS isn’t an industry standard to begin with. It’s like when you’re writing a fictional story - you DO RESEARCH INTO STORY ELEMENTS. That should be a standard part of creating a ‘concept’ or styling any artist - where does this idea come from? is it COPYING or PLAGIARISING anyone? is it CULTURAL APPROPRIATION?

So, yes, KQ Entertainment made a grave mistake. Furthermore, their blunder is just the latest in a LONGGGG series of cultural appropriation and racism in K-pop. On top of that, this is a racially-sensitive time.

I did initially wonder why Hongjoong, who is an activist for multiple platforms and is very aware of how carefully they must navigate different cultures, didn’t point out that cornrows were not appropriate (esp since San said the members were very involved in this comeback). However, we have to remember that Hongjoong exists outside that culture, lives in a country/works in an industry that is notoriously racist/colourist, and would have seen other groups use that hairstyle (esp for Summer comeback - KoKoBop and Boom ring any bells?). I didn’t fully understand the problem with non-black people wearing cornrows (i just thought it was distasteful, fake and try-hard) until someone pointed out how every aspect of blackness has been stereotyped and criminalized. This is NOT something that most people are taught.

Reasons why people need to FUCKING SETTLE DOWN:

KQ Entertainment’s swift response to their fans was INCREDIBLE. Let me ask all you kpop multis: what did SM do in response to Kai’s dreadlocks and Chenle’s cornrows? There was no explicit apology. There was no attempt to explain themselves. There was no promise to change their behaviour in the future.

KQ Entertainment has shown that they are open to change and education. They have taken action in response to people calling them out. They have apologised for their actions and explained why changes to completed promotional changes cannot be made.

And now people are complaining that KQ haven’t done enough, sending death threats to Hongjoong and generally spreading a disgusting amount of hate.

Listen, regardless of how large an entertainment company is, it is highly unlikely that any of them would change promotional material that has already been completed this close to a comeback date. The money and time that requires is ridiculous. It would require pushing back the comeback date. A small company like KQ, whose world tour was recently CANCELLED, cannot afford to do that. And you may criticise them for choosing money over a ‘more important issue’ but let’s discuss how significant this issue is and the best way to facilitate change.

So we all agree that this is cultural appropriation and that cultural appropriation is bad. We also all agree that KQ has apologised and agreed to make feasible changes. Our response should be to welcome those changes.

If people just keep criticising the company and ‘cancelling’ them for their choices, then it becomes clear to the WHOLE INDUSTRY that trying to change things and negotiate with fans becomes pointless. They’re going to lose support regardless of what they do. This ‘all-or-nothing’ response is ridiculous.

Sensationalism and social media have made it really difficult to have a conversation that doesn’t involve two extremes at opposite ends of a spectrum. In reality, most issues should be viewed on a spectrum, in shades of grey. Responding with aggression and hate, labeling a company and their artists as racist because they’ve appropriated one aspect of a culture and publicly shaming them doesn’t help.

Anti-racism doesn’t mean being an “anti-fan”. EFFECTIVE anti-racism means calling out racists acts (which we’ve done), asking for change (done) and drawing attention to positive behaviours and alternative and reinforce these (WHICH WE ARE NOT DOING).

We have to give KQ Entertainment CONSTRUCTIVE criticism in response to their changes in order for them to recognise that THEY ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING.

Complications: The Harper Bazaar photo shoot - Hongjoong’s hair is styled in braids/cornrows for that photo shoot. It suggests that he was going to have that hairstyle for the majority of their promotions. However, these are still part of promotional material had been completed prior to the teaser photo being dropped. KQ Entertainment truly did not have the time to change it.

Yes, it looks bad. Yes, KQ Entertainment fucked up. But unless we continue to support Ateez and give them constructive criticism that they can REALISTICALLY APPLY, change will not occur. This is a first step. WE have given Ateez and KQ the opportunity to set a NEW PRECEDENT for the industry. WE have given Ateez and KQ to set a NEW STANDARD.

They can ONLY do this if WE continue to support them and give them a chance to SUCCEED.

(P.S. - if you’re sending hate to Hongjoong [and there HAVE been death threats] you are cruel and mean as well as implicit in preventing his education)

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sarahxy537

4 years ago

reblog for jooheon's thighs

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sarahxy537

4 years ago

Please reblog this, this could save a life

Heard Some Important Information On Twitter Today, And Thought I’d Post It Here For Anyone Who May

Heard some important information on Twitter today, and thought I’d post it here for anyone who may not have heard it. This is actually a thing, devised by human rights organisation called Karma Nirvana.

Reblog to save a life?

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