I feel like people struggle to understand that my life as an aorace person is not centered around an absence of relationships. There is no romance shaped void that I am trying to live with, or live around, or which my life's purpose is to fill somehow.
I go to university and I go to work and I volunteer in my community and in the in-between moments I drink tea with my friends and I plant tomatoes on my balcony and there is no need for anything else. There is no room for anything else anyway.
When I am asked how I deal with 'the hole in my life' or what I do with 'all my free time', I know these questions are not about me at all. They are a reflection of the person asking.
the dubious philosophy of salmon
I would not change it each time
francesca - hozier
i dm’d thcscus about a month ago asking for permission to work on a printed copy of passerine, and it's finally here!
full cover design under the cut! (also much love to @ups1gbt3f7op3dr for letting me use their art)
Since rainbow capitalism sucks, here are some small queer shops to support this coming pride month instead of giving all your money to Disney and Walmart!
Pride bows!
All the buttons you could ever need or want!
Dice and dominoes!
Bottle charms!
Armour-inspired jewelry!
Stickers, stickers, and more stickers!
Black queer art prints!
Shoelaces!
Hats!
Patches!
Cross stitch!
Earrings, earrings, and more earrings!
Bat dolls!
Bracelets 1 and Bracelets 2
Dragon dolls!
Sweaters!
Queer Goats!
Abrosexual pride!
Do no harm, take no shit!
Pride moths!
Misc. Identity merch!
Chocolate!
Pride shrimp!
And finally, it's not specifically queer, but these shops do custom flags!
If you have a shop or know a shop you want to promote, please reblog with a link!
The Ancient Kiss ✨
Yet another reminder that faking is a conscious choice that you make.
It is not something you can do accidentally, regards of what you're talking about.
You can't accidentally fake depression, or anxiety, or bipolar disorder, or schizophrenia, or any other mental illness.
You can't accidentally fake Borderline Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, personality disorders.
You can't accidentally fake ADHD, autism, Tourette's Syndrome, auditory processing disorder, aphasia or any other neurodivergence
You can't accidentally fake being trans or ace-spec or aro-spec or any other LGBTQIA+ identity.
You can't accidentally fake chronic illnesses like CFS, fibromyalgia or any chronic illness.
You also can't accidentally fake being good/intelligent at something. You didn't fool your peers into reaching your position.
You can't accidentally fake trauma, PTSD/cPTSD, DID/OSDD/DDNOS or any other trauma-based disorder.
Tldr:
Faking is a conscious choice.
You cannot do it by accident.
If you are worried that you are faking, that in itself is proof that you are not.
ain't that just the way 🌲🍂🎃
I used to hate the world and I was happy when everyone died. But I was wrong, because there was one person worth saving. That’s what I did.
THE LAST OF US (2023-) S01E03 | “Long Long Time”
Some thoughts I had talking myself out of getting an ADHD diagnosis:
“They’ll laugh at me & tell me I’m just lazy”
“I’ll probably just exaggerate and make them think I have ADHD”
“I just wasn’t trying hard enough”
“Others have it much worse, I’m just looking for an easy way out”
“I can manage if I really try (and am constantly burnt out)”
“I’m not hyperactive (shakes leg, chewing gum and can’t stop playing with earrings)”
“I just have to keep trying and I can become normal one day”
“I can focus sometimes, so clearly I’m just not trying all the time”
You don’t have to tolerate barely *surviving* life. You also deserve help so life isn’t that hard all the time
Everyone who’s been talking to me knows i’ve been working on this comic about wlws and cats for a while and i’m so so happy it’s finally here!!! :D
idea stolen from this post :’3