Sigh. Ok. So. Here Is Something That People Who Are Very Online And Do A Lot Of Tumblr Discourse Do Not
sigh. ok. so. here is something that people who are Very Online and do a lot of tumblr discourse do not seem to get: many marginalized groups experience huge issues with their sex lives being stigmatized and/or with being consistently desexualized.
queer people’s sex is stigmatized because it’s viewed as dirty and sinful and wrong, to the point that even within the queer community, a lot of positivity that people create for queer people is contingent on us being ~uwu pure soft sweet beans~ who are always ~sweet and tender~, never sexual, never rough or hard, and absolutely never kinky.
mentally disabled people are viewed as eternal children who could never possibly enjoy sex or experience sexual attraction/desire, to the point that people will literally say that it’s bad to be sexually attracted to mentally disabled people and that it’s comparable to pedophilia. (stares at entrapta discourse).
physically disabled people and fat people are viewed as looking so ugly and horrific and disgusting that nobody could ever possibly be attracted to us—even if we can experience sexual attraction, we could never possibly have sex, because nobody could ever be sexually attracted to us in return.
so, in light of this, it is incredibly important to keep in mind that headcanoning (or canonizing, if you’re a creator) people within those groups as asexual is not inherently better and more progressive than portraying them as experiencing sexual desire and having healthy sex lives. i’m not saying “you can never view characters in those groups as ace”, i’m just saying that you cannot get mad at people just for viewing them as sexual. we are also trying desperately to reclaim our sexuality and to see ourselves represented for once.
somebody viewing (or, again, even canonizing) a character as having and enjoying sex is not like, a terrible horrible aphobic crime against all ace people, particularly when that character is in one or more of those groups. like, i’m bi, but i don’t say that viewing a character with no canon sexuality as a lesbian or gay man is inherently biphobic. viewing a character as sexual is not inherently aphobic.
i remember a few years ago, there was a WTNV episode that vaguely implied that cecil and carlos had sex, and people lost their shit and accused the creators of being aphobic. but cecil and carlos are gay men, and sex between men is incredibly stigmatized, and portraying them as having a healthy sex life is wonderful and progressive and important.
and now, in current tumblr discourse, if a gay/fat/disabled person tries to say “hey it’s pretty weird to consistently headcanon all gay/fat/disabled people as asexual, because when you do it to those groups consistently, it starts to feel like you’re desexualizing them”, people absolutely rip them to shreds and call them aphobic.
like someone i follow is Right Now Currently being attacked and called aphobic just for saying “martin (tma) is canonically fat and gay and people in those groups are often desexualized so it’s weird to see people consistently insist that he can’t possibly enjoy sex; it’s also weird to see people consistently insist that he must have never had sex in his entire life ever because fat people are consistently viewed as people who nobody could ever be attracted to, so it can carry the unfortunate implication that nobody could be attracted to martin because he’s fat”
tl;dr: stop saying that viewing gay/fat/disabled characters as having and enjoying sex is inherently aphobic, people in those groups are very consistently desexualized and/or have our sex stigmatized, so representation for people in those groups who have and enjoy sex is just as important as ace representation
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My mom is super “health” obsessed, or really, just doesn’t like the fact that I’m slightly pudgy. But because of the existence of social media and some of the great people I’ve met through it I’ve never once thought about starving myself. And I’m so sorry to all of you that have. From the bottom of my heart, I hope your lives get better. I love you, you are valuable. You are worth the space you consume.
Hey, whatever drove you to your eating disorder, I just wanted to say I’m sorry.
Weather it was a fatphobic comment overheard during class, or bullying, or a “health” obsessed parent, or a society saturated in diet culture, or trauma, or anything else; I’m sorry.
You were wronged. You may never hear it from the people or things that influenced it, so hear it from me.
You deserve better.
I’m sorry.
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