It's Good To Be Reminded That The Dark Places In My Head Are WANTED, And Not To Be Shunned, So Long As

It's good to be reminded that the dark places in my head are WANTED, and not to be shunned, so long as they were consented to.

Things to Say to Someone in Top Drop/Dom Drop

I’m okay

I love you

Thank you

It’s alright

I’m not hurt

I’m not hurt too badly

You’re lovely/wonderful/kind

I enjoyed it

It was worth it

Take your time

Do you need anything?

Do you want a cuddle?

Do you want me to get dressed/take the collar off/put the crop away?

Do you want to talk about it?

I’m here

You’re not a bad person

Top drop/dom drop usually comes from shock, guilt or insecurity about the way you have just treated someone whose well-being you care about very much. Like sub drop, it is usually accompanied by a fall in endorphins and general energy levels. Especially for aces (who I find have a greater need to be in the right mindset/’zone’ for play and intimacy), a ‘snap’ moment where you break out of play mode can throw you emotionally, and the end of play causes a similar reassessment or double-take at what happened during the scene.

Dominants in drop require the same kind of care as subs, but a different kind of reassurance.

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There's not even a question.

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3 weeks ago

tell me on anon what you'd never tell me off anon

No one is actually gonna do it but fuck it.

1 week ago

It's reassuring to hear this from one's sub. To be reminded that what we do - and possibly feel guilty for enjoying doing - is received happily, even gratefully.

Many masochists NEED the level of release that comes from a properly-outlined session, and if we are not by nature abusive, it can be a shock to the system.

Take heart in knowing that you're providing them release, comfort, and that glorious endorphin rush that they need. And if it doesn't click immediately, keep at it!

Who's to say that you, yourself might not take pleasure in wielding the implements of their satisfaction. In ensuring that you take their measure correctly, apply juuuust the right amount of swing, or squeeze, or bite. It's a fine line to walk, but the look of agonized thanks on their face is so worth the effort.

Jsyk if you’re a sadist and you feel guilty hurting people, I love you and support you, and I am SO happy to tell you how good it feels when you hurt me! To thank you when you hit me harder! To tell you how hot it is when you let yourself go and I get to see how feral you can get! And to get to hold you after and reassure you that I’m okay, that we’re okay, that there’s nothing wrong with what you like. I’m here and I adore you and can we please, please do that again sometime 💕

4 weeks ago

I take long walks in the forest.

VERY enthusiastic walks.

I Told You I Was Going To Find You Princess.. Now Look What Happened.

I told you I was going to find you princess.. now look what happened.

3 weeks ago

..... listen here, Dad jokes are a time-honored tradition. This smacks of cultural appropriation.

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5 days ago
4 weeks ago

Any time.

Any place.

No matter who might be near or overhear.

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