I Was So Depressed That Last Night Ace Came To Me In A Dream, And Not Only Did He Talk To Me, He Also

it sucks because i really do care for this one friend but it seems all I do is make them mad at me. i want to really be cool with them and all i want for them is to be happy. I want a steady relationship but it seems too much to ask for

friends are fun

it's been some time, huh??

I hate feeling so numb

i can’t get anything done and it’s literally slapping my ass

lowkey kinda wanna die

i've learned that the actions you take can be harmless to you, but harmful to others

i've learned that some mistakes you make, you can't, and won't, be able to fix

i've learned that the friends you have now, won't always be there later

and i've learned, that the actions i've taken, will always hurt someone, no matter how small

some of you have to learn what a real apology is

One of the most challenging things I’ve had to learn is that healing must be intentional. There is no one golden day that comes and saves you from all your misery. Healing is a practice. You have to decide that it’s what you want to do and actively do it. You have to make a habit out of it. Once I learned that, I only looked back to see how far I came.

I mod for two different aro/ace blogs and I’ve seen so many asks from aspec people who are in some deeply unhealthy friendships at this point that I think it’s really time to make a post about it.

Your friends should not mock or belittle your sexual and/or romantic orientations. Your identity is an important part of who you are and an actual friend would know that. People who mock your identity aren’t your friends, they’re bullies. 

Your friends should recognize and respect your boundaries. You’re touch averse and your friends keep touching you even though you’ve asked them not to on multiple occasions? Sex jokes make you uncomfortable and you’ve asked your friends to not make them around you, but they refuse to? You’re romance repulsed and have explained to your friend that hearing about their relationships all the time is bad for your mental health but they still won’t stop? Then those people aren’t respecting your boundaries and you either need to have a serious talk with them until they figure it out or you need to stop being their friend.

This can be hard to hear but it needs to be said. Don’t let your friends mistreat you just because you’re aspec. You deserve so much better and I promise there are better people out there.