executive dysfunction is legitimately physically uncomfortable. i’ll be trapped between two things, weirdly caught on how-much-time-it-might-take-me. i take hours worried im going to take hours doing things. i’ll sit on the floor for the entire day, caught up in the middle of not-doing the chores i actually do want to be doing.
& the amount of mental energy that goes into it. & the legitimate amount of anger and discomfort and self-hate. is not “being lazy”. it’d be a lot less work if i didn’t have to fight myself to just get up and do it.
i just need you to understand it’s not effortless. it’s never effortless. it’s not “okay let me just get up and finally start doing this.” it’s more like. i am slamming my foot on the pedal but the car is in neutral and nothing is moving. it’s more like shouting instructions into a dying telephone. it’s more like being trapped in a small electric box, and someone who hates me is administering shocks.
im trying. im trying. please help me get up.
I have hired this Tat to stare at you
i dont consider myself a 'fashion guru' by any means but one thing i will say is guys you dont need to know the specific brand an item you like is - you need to know what the item is called. very rarely does a brand matter, but knowing that pair of pants is called 'cargo' vs 'boot cut' or the names of dress styles is going to help you find clothes you like WAAAYYYY faster than brand shopping
We have bandana waddle dee
So how about ribbon waddle doo
not a phase
need this setup
making your fursona similar to you saves so much self hatred
one last thought, if you live as a disabled person person who relies on "good will", you have to always be kind and thankful and never show any irritation or criticise the help (even if it's not very helpful!), never be frustrated about your own disability, never ask for too many things in a row, because otherwise that good will can be revoked. be gracious and polite but not too needy! always have a positive outlook. never make people feel uncomfortable by struggling in front of them. definitely don't complain ever at all, even when the people showing you "good will" are complaining about you. et cetera. it's exhausting.
creature