Latest Posts by jatravess - Page 3
constantly fronting host culture is here pal!! I made you a bracelet with your name on it! yeah, I know you're not gonna front, yeah I know you won't be able to wear it yourself, yeah I know I'll be talking for you and that's the closest you're comfortable getting to fronting, but I made you this bracelet anyways!! So that you can feel loved and welcome and recognized!!!
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Me: *hears that bottling up your emotions is bad* oh no! I will make sure I don't do that!
My brain (devious): *makes the bottle invisible and hides all evidence of unconscious bottling up*
Me: see, I'm not bottling up my emotions :) I just don't feel them very strongly and feel very detached from them :)
As awareness of plurality continues to spread online, that also means more and more people will realize they are plural. And unfortunately, there will be a response from certain gatekeepy exclusionist types, who will push back against these newfound systems and insist on invalidating them. They’ll insist they’re just hopping on a trend, or just fooling themselves, or whatever other justification they can make up to maintain the idea that being plural is extremely rare and being plural means suffering for it.
Don’t fall for it. Being plural presents challenges and difficulties without question, but being plural also can bring joys and clarity that weren’t possible otherwise. Being plural can be hard, and it can be beautiful.
No two systems present and function exactly the same ways. No two systems are plural for the exact same reasons. So we can’t expect there to be an absolute common trait present in every system. So any attempt to weed out the “fakers” is pointless and malicious.
If someone believes themself to be plural, they have good reason to. No further “proof” needed. If someone comes to us believing themself to be plural, we will help them along without critique or question. And above all we will be happy for them. Even if someday they realize they aren’t plural, that process of being allowed to question and experiment is so important, and they should be allowed to do so regardless of where they end up.
Plurality is a spectrum that encompasses a vast swathe of experiences and outlooks. It can be difficult to reckon with, which is why community is so vital. And as that community online grows and becomes more and more visible, we should all do our part, systems and singlets, to make sure these newfound systems feel safe, seen, and welcome.
Sysmeds: I FUCKING HATE MY HEADMATES I HATE BEING A SYSTEM GRAHHGGG
Me, plural enjoyer: *crying to my moots* Scald literally loved me so much he learned a whole Deftones song on his guitar because he knew it was my favorite
(hey singlets you can enjoy this infinite pure love too..it’s so worth it I’ve never felt so happy and complete before)
what i feel like is lacking from conversations about plurality is how genuinely, fundamentally cool it is to be plural. doesnt it fascinate you how our brains can create entirely new selves, inner worlds, inner structures to keep itself afloat? doesnt it make you so curious? especially with regards to atypical plural experiences. i dont hate people for having entire systems full of fragments or fictives or subsystems. in fact, i find it wonderful, a miracle of the mind. you have a complicated inner world with unique lore? incredible, how did that develop? your entire system is full of fictives from the same source? thats amazing, hows that going? your system has entire layers on itself, with several systems running in tandem? wow, thats fascinating, how did you know? you believe you came from different worlds? tell me about them. please, tell me more about yourselves. id love to hear it. i do not fear the potential of the human brain.
When the game is named after you and you finally get to be the protagonist
honestly, i think the best part of our plurality is the emotional bleedthrough we have. it happens more the stonger the emotions are and it feels exactly like im feeling my own emotions, but im not the source of it.
if one of us is feeling bad, like stressed, sad, anxious, whatever, well now the others know exactly how they feel and can help to comfort them so much better than they could otherwise, also its great to just feel them calm down as you help.
but its gets better, it happens with joy as well. it really is an amazing feeling just bounceing pure happiness off each other, and theres been a few times we've gotten into a bit of a feedback loop with it.
im not sure were we saw it but i remember seeing a quote along the lines of "shared pain is halved, shared joy is doubled" and thats exactly what is like.
we love being plural and wouldnt trade it for the world.
if i didnt have headmates then who would remind me i can take paracetamol to fix the headaches caused by my headmates?
(.)(.)
[boobs image]
i assure you, my brain contains the normal number of voices.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN THE NORMAL NUMBERS ONE!!
hang on let me check,
uhhhhhhhhh.....
@funnierasasystem @funnier-for-systems @funnier-as-a-system
me: "i dont know how i ever coped as a singlet"
my headmate Ashley: "poorly"
me: "ok i mean that is true but theres no need to call me out like that"
about a month ago when i started to question if i was a part of a system i was really panicing about it and i remember thinking to myself "i could still repress this"
i know it probably wouldnt have worked, but even so im glad i didnt. im so very glad i didnt.
as weird and as difficult as plurality can be i like the others in here with me, i like the conversations we have and how we work together as team. i like being a part of a system.
the future is plural and so are we!
Im not a girl trapped in a boys body!!
im several girls and a bird trapped in a boys body,
really should have gone to a different doctor.
this is actually how i started questioning whether or not im plural,
got what i thought where intrusive thoughts so i just internally yelled "oh shut up", and they yelled back and now here we are.
Questioning median culture is realising I've possibly been telling another facet to shut up for years just thinking they were anxiety thoughts and feeling bad about it?
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really sucks how i cant be honest with my doctor for fear of losing access to transition healthcare.
like i could use a therapist to help work through the realisation that im probably plural but then they would add it to my medical records and i just cant take the risk of that.
ive heard of people being denied trans heathcare because of depression (which is like denying an appendectomy cos of stomach pain), a DID or OSDD diagnosis would almost certainly be used as an excuse.
struggling with your identity?
try dissociation!!
dissociating from my identity worked great for the last 20 years.
i mean i am 6 people now but im sure thats completely unrelated.
relatable
New Transincidental comic!
https://www.webtoons.com/en/canvas/transincidental/the-pluralization-part-1/viewer?title_no=605328&episode_no=79
As awareness of plurality continues to spread online, that also means more and more people will realize they are plural. And unfortunately, there will be a response from certain gatekeepy exclusionist types, who will push back against these newfound systems and insist on invalidating them. They’ll insist they’re just hopping on a trend, or just fooling themselves, or whatever other justification they can make up to maintain the idea that being plural is extremely rare and being plural means suffering for it.
Don’t fall for it. Being plural presents challenges and difficulties without question, but being plural also can bring joys and clarity that weren’t possible otherwise. Being plural can be hard, and it can be beautiful.
No two systems present and function exactly the same ways. No two systems are plural for the exact same reasons. So we can’t expect there to be an absolute common trait present in every system. So any attempt to weed out the “fakers” is pointless and malicious.
If someone believes themself to be plural, they have good reason to. No further “proof” needed. If someone comes to us believing themself to be plural, we will help them along without critique or question. And above all we will be happy for them. Even if someday they realize they aren’t plural, that process of being allowed to question and experiment is so important, and they should be allowed to do so regardless of where they end up.
Plurality is a spectrum that encompasses a vast swathe of experiences and outlooks. It can be difficult to reckon with, which is why community is so vital. And as that community online grows and becomes more and more visible, we should all do our part, systems and singlets, to make sure these newfound systems feel safe, seen, and welcome.
