im 19 :)
i'm a bit new to the whole dom/sub thing- i know id be submissive and all, but i tend to be extremely sarcastic and i struggle taking things seriously and focusing in on stuff. it's not that i don't want to submit, i just tend to struggle with letting myself. and when things do get serious, i tend to panic and make a lot of jokes and quips to try and lighten the mood / get out of the situation. im a bit worried that if i did end up in a dom/sub relationship, that my panic attitude would be mistaken for brattiness or disobedience. i really want to be obedient and be able to submit to someone, i just don't know how to let myself and to be honest im kind of scared.
also- i'm not sure why but sometimes i get these really intense like submissive urges (?) and my thoughts get all foggy. it usually results in me having a mental breakdown and cuddling a stuffy and crying. do you know what that is / why it happens?
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Hello, my lovely little fox,
Thank you so much for sharing your age. That fox is all yours now, for as long as you want it.
Now, let me just say how brave and self-aware you are for sharing all of this information about you with me. It takes a tender kind of courage to speak so honestly about the things youâre feeling, especially when they feel big or confusing. I see you, Iâm proud of you.
Letâs start with that wonderful, sarcastic streak of yours. I think itâs important to say this right away: submission doesnât mean becoming someone else. Itâs not about shutting off your personality or âperformingâ submission in one rigid way. Some submissives are quiet and still. Others are cheeky, giggly, sarcastic, or even a little chaotic. All are valid.
What youâre describing; using humor and quips as a way to cope or deflect when things get intense, is something so many people experience, especially if theyâre sensitive, neurodivergent, anxious, or have trauma responses. Itâs not disobedience. Itâs not brattiness. Itâs your system saying, âThis feels too much, too fast, and I need a way out.â Thatâs not wrong, thatâs information. And the right Dominant will see that.
A good D/s relationship isnât about forcing obedience. Itâs about building trust. Softly. Gently. At your pace. Itâs about learning how your mind and body respond, and creating a space where submission feels safe, not scary.
And those foggy, overwhelming moments you mentioned? Where you get hit with a wave of submissive urges and then end up crying with your stuffy?
Sweetheart⌠that sounds like emotional drop, or possibly even a kind of âsub dropâ without the scene. When your body wants to submit, when your need feels so strong and unfulfilled, it can create this buildup of intensity that doesn't know where to go. And when thereâs no release, no container, no soft voice to catch you, it crashes inward. Thatâs not weird or wrong. Thatâs your heart asking for connection, for safety, for someone to hold all that intensity and tell you, âYouâre okay. Youâre safe. Iâve got you.â
Youâre not broken, little fox. Youâre sensitive. And that is a beautiful thing.
You donât have to âget it right.â You donât need to be perfectly obedient, serious, or quiet. You just need someone who sees you, sarcasm, panic, soft heart, foggy thoughts, and all, and builds something gentle and real with you.
Submission doesnât have to be scary. It can be a warm place to land.
And if you ever need someone to remind you that itâs okay to feel things deeply, Iâm right here.
xo JadeÂ
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Fuck her until all the bad thoughts go away
have a severe mommy kink. older woman who talks to me very gently, older woman who gets doors for me, older woman who understands me without any explanation, older woman who teases me till I go non-verbal, older woman who treats me to pretty lingerie and toys to keep me on her fingertips, older woman who has very pretty hands and keeps distracting me with them, older woman to whore myself out to, older woman who calls me babygirl when she wants to taste me, older woman explaining things to me, older woman who's so calm it washes over me and I get comfy to the point I'm sleepy around her love like yeah ruin my life older women
MEN AND MINORS DNI
I want to help her, not because I think sheâs incapable, but because she deserves to be taken care of.
Yeah youâre perfectly capable of opening a door by yourself, but isnât it just nice if I hold it open for you instead? I know youâre strong enough to carry your own bags, but let me lighten the load anyway. You can cook a nice meal, but what if you just relax on the couch, and let me make it for you? You might not really need a hug in this moment, but I can give you one anyway, because hugs arenât just for when you feel bad. Iâm well aware that youâre capable of doing simple tasks, like making your bed, or folding your laundry. Iâd just like to do it for you anyway.
I just want to take care of her in the simplest of ways, taking care of the little things.
want to show a girl who thinks she's unloveable that she's this worlds' greatest gift
subs really do give so much by taking all they can. reminding them and ourselves that they deserve sincere praise for these acts of devotion which develop purely from a genuine connection of trust, reassurance, safety, and established communication is so important. they do it all for us, you know. iâm talking even past the aftercare, to lovingly dote on your sub otherwise is such a privilege. they should feel deeply cared for, empowered by the total control they have over their own treatment, overwhelmingly and undoubtedly loved. to give everything⌠well theyâd deserve that much and more then, wouldnât they <3
submission really doesn't mean anything to me if it's not earned. true submission is built on trust and feeling safe and appreciated. that's what makes it so meaningful, and you have to know me in order to submit to me. I want to know that you're submitting to me specifically, because of the way i make you feel and who I am. Telling me that I'm perfect and that you'd do anything for me right off the bat means absolutely nothing. those are empty statements because you literally do not know me!! It's not special if you're just trying to submit to whoever will allow it.
girls are so annoying bro why are you asking me if i like you when iâm literally in the middle of eating you out after telling you that i love you. ask me that again and iâm gonna make you tell me how much i love you. thatâs right, youâre gonna tell ME âyou love meâ âyou love meâ over and over again while iâm in you to the hilt with my strap and iâve got my teeth in your neck. shut up and get fucked like the princess you are, loser
I think what breaks me the most about the scene where Luz opens up is that the whole thing is Luz trying not to be a burden. The whole thing is Luz saying âit was a long time ago,â or ânot an issue anymoreâ or âI was dumb.â
Itâs the way she speaks slightly faster, tone slightly higher, voice strained. The way she makes herself smaller and even physically tries to take up less space. She doesnât know what to do with her hands.
Itâs the way sheâs completely ready to be dismissed, completely ready to say its not a big deal before someone beats her to it. The way she basically says âI know I had a lot going through my head at the time, and it was weighing heavy on me, but itâs not an excuse for what I did.â
The fact that she says, with somewhat of a smile, âit was a long time ago soâŚâ before she turns to look at Amity and realizes she canât brush this off.
Itâs not that Amity is mad, itâs that she can tell this means a lot. Itâs the fact that Amity probably put together the fact that her whole mission with her own dad has probably made Luz feel worse. Amityâs done nothing wrong, of course. She had no way of knowing, but it must still feel gut-wrenching regardless.
So Luz explains. And what breaks her isnât admitting that itâs the anniversary, or that her mom isnât with her, its that she âdoesnât have any flowers.â and the voice acting is so good. and her little voice break there is so telling.
Because she has a door to build, and a stupid dictator to keep an eye on, and by comparison her tradition feels so small⌠she doesnât even have any flowers.
She ends with âI was dumb.â and in the chaos Amity doesnât get to comfort her in the moment, but does promise to help. She listens, and announces that yes, they will get flowers. They will do something about it.
And then they do.
I want to lie on your chest and listen to your heartbeat while you play with my hair and tell me everythingâs gonna be alright