One thing that might be helpful as an aid is a heated body pillow. They're about $100, but it can help to simulate hugging. The combination of that and a weighted blanket works particularly well. Cheaper option would be a heating pad & a regular pillow, you might already have those laying around. It won't be quite as nice, but it could still help.
Combining visualization (within a headspace situation) with hugging someone who is co-con can also work well. And combining all of these things can work *very* well.
How do I hug my headmates and have them actually feel it? They're cool and deserve hugs :]
Hello! I relate to this a lot,
Now I'm not familiar with stuff in headspace or an inner world as we don't really have one. However! I often will hug the body/ourselves, with the To Be Hugged in front or co-con with me, and that works. In fact, all physical affection we want to show to one another and feel it is through the body .. it's actually really comforting ^♡^
There are likely other ways, and this may not work for everyplural, but this is what we do! I hope they get their hugs <3
Today's the last day of April, and to belatedly celebrate my birthday I'd like to share a comic with you: it's about getting revenge against the people who wronged you, and it's called Werewolf's Lament.
Werewolf's Lament is printed with florescent orange and mint risograph inks on light brown paper; cut and folded in the shape of a wolf. Physical copies are for sale in my online shop.
rb this to give the person you reblogged from a very tiny frog
got his ass
"its important people talk about their experiences with plurality" i tell myself. "if the only people talking about it are people who are sure what they're experiencing is normal and textbook and 'right', it will continue feeding into a cycle of people bekng afraid to talk about themselves and always thinking their plurality is somehow wrong," i continue, still shaking, for the fear that im doing it wrong will forever haunt me