The First Kick Is Always A Doozy.

When my Wife is off on business, i know what is going to happen.

When she first mentioned that her ex was coming to town and that he wanted to get together with her, she assured you that she no longer had any feelings for him and that they would just be having an evening together “like old friends”.  But now – as she was preparing for the evening – her message was that, of course they would be having sex – how could you have ever thought otherwise.  But it was too late for you to do or say anything – except to hope that it would be nothing more than a one-time thing.

i mean pussy has its place. It has ruled me for so long.

Truly Submissive?

Are you truly submissive, or are you just kinky? That’s the question you men should ask yourselves. You women should ask yourselves if you are truly in an FLR or are you just a dominant for his kink…

Many men, women too, mistake leadership in an FLR for dominance in kink. If you are doing kinky things for your partner because that’s what he wants, but you are not getting what you want from the relationship, then you are just playing dominant to his kink. If he were truly submissive, then he would be fulfilling all your hopes and dreams, desires, and kinks, without expecting anything in return. That much is fact…

An FLR is not a sexual relationship. It is a lead and follow relationship. That is, as the leader of the relationship, you, as a woman, should be getting anything and everything you want. Only then, should you feel the need to reward your submissive with sexual favors that he wants, whether they be kinky or not.

Men, if you are not willing to give up your right to make decisions, to choose what you do and don’t do, on a daily basis, to turn over total control of your families fives to your wife, then you are not submissive at all. Being sexually submissive is not the same as being submissive to your partner in all things.

Think carefully about what I am saying here. If you, as a man, want to be teased for hours on end, then denied an orgasm for months at a time, then you must be willing to do anything to get that. Yes, I said “ANYTHING!” A true submissive will be rewarded for serving unselfishly. That means, if you expect no reward for your service to your partner and you serve her without complaint, then you deserve to be rewarded. That reward may, or may not, be sexual in nature, but it will be fulfilling…

So serve your wife (Mistress) without seeking reward, you shall be rewarded. It may sound contradictory, but it isn’t when you think about it. So ask yourself, “Am I being truly submissive, or am I being selfish?” The answer may surprise you. And you may not like it. Only you can change the reason for your service…

From Mistress Ivey’s blog “Becoming a Mistress”

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Chastity & Submission...

CHASTITY AND SUBMISSION – ISN’T IT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS?

If your man is submissive in the bedroom he can still be masculine, sexy, have the ability to inspire you, arouse you, love you and care for you. Being submissive is to him something special that’s a part of this character which he may only allow out to play with you, because he trusts you implicitly, and no one else…

Many men in highly powerful jobs need a release from work sometimes, which is why they venture into submission and chastity…

Wearing a chastity device and being submissive in private will not impinge on his ability at work…

Submission is not weakness. Submission involves your husband having great trust and belief in you. Submission involves having the confidence to express oneself. It’s about placing your needs above his. Submission is honouring you with his mind, body and soul…

WILL WEARING A CHASTITY DEVICE HURT HIM?

At times it will feel as if the cage of his chastity device is “caressing” his penis, this can heighten arousal, and might feel like he’s wearing your own personal “bondage cuddle”.

He will find that the beginnings of an erection feels more like an “erotic pain” rather than being unbearably painful. These sensations will bring his mind back to you, his keyholder, his loving wife…

Generally wearing a chastity device does not hurt, but you shouldn’t always expect it to feel comfortable right away, it can take a little while for him to become used to it both physically and mentally. If he does experience discomfort, it’s likely to be initially felt around the scrotum where the cock ring of the chastity device fits. He may notice a little pinching and it can take up to 2 weeks or more to get the perfect fit and comfort techniques.

His penis isn’t going to rub against his trousers or underpants as it might normally, it will be denied almost all touch. When he goes to the bathroom that will be a different experience too. Wearing a chastity device means that can he cannot touch himself and it’s likely he’ll need to sit down to pee…

He is going to feel sexually frustrated at times. As he embarks on his male chastity journey with you holding his key its almost certain that he will be expecting some amount of frustration, but it’s impact won’t be experienced until he’s gone longer than usual without an orgasm. He may get irritable and ask to be released. Whether this release happens is up to you. Don’t always give in to him, otherwise, to use a very popular phrase in the D/s world, he’s “topping from the bottom”. He’s actually controlling you and getting what HE wants…

HOW LONG SHOULD I KEEP HIM LOCKED UP?

Before locking your man in chastity for more than a few hours he needs to be accustomed to wearing a chastity device, there needs to be a breaking in period, which he must dictate. He shouldn’t simply expect to put on a device for the first time and discover a perfect comfortable fit. It takes a while to adjust himself both physically and mentally. Wearing it a few hours each evening when home from work is a good way to become accustomed to wearing a chastity device. As his keyholder encourage him to temper the excitement of fantasy with the necessities of reality…

Most men once used to wearing their device tend to be locked up in weekly blocks, i.e. 7, 14, or 21 days or for a month or two. However, when you are starting out with male chastity it’s best to agree a target between you for the first few occasions. Chat about it and be realistic, discover what he thinks he can sensibly achieve, don’t be too ambitious to begin with. You should keep these agreed periods quite short until your man is completely used to his device. Often this can mean just locking him up whilst you go shopping, then progress to lock-ins lasting for the weekend, starting on Friday night and then releasing him on Sunday evening (or Monday morning if he hasn’t done his duties properly). Over the weeks you can extend this period each time, until he has settled in to his device and is comfortable for extended periods…

Once you have agreed the length of time for him to be locked up, whether it’s a day or a week, as his keyholder make sure you stick to it. However much he moans and complains stick to your guns and don’t allow him the key and freedom until the hour of his release has been reached, and if he keeps on complaining, threaten to extend it by another day! He’ll thank you for it all the more in the end!

TAKE A BREAK:

To keep the delights of chastity alive, you need to take a break from it, particularly if your husband is a long term wearer. Anything we do, any activity we partake of, can become uninteresting and boring if it becomes the everyday accepted way of living. The same is true of chastity. Often couples will stop using the chastity device for a month or so, and return to chastity with a fresh exciting awareness. We tend to be “Creatures of Habit” and this familiarity eventually creates disillusionment or boredom with any subject that’s a constant focus in our lives. Often it is the keyholder who dictates this…

Thanks to Tickleberry

WHY I CUCKOLD MY HUSBAND? 

BECAUSE I LIKE IT.

The politically correct answer would be: “My husband is a cuckold, because that is what he is longing for and because he wants me to lead him to a deeper submission. If he wouldn’t, I wouldn’t do it.”

The answer is correct, and forms part of the reason why I began doing it, but I have to admit, in the presend I make my husband a cuckold because I like it.

I love making love with a man, and I love that my husband does not have the right to have the same priviledges as I have. I admit. I love meeting men, the whole process from the beginning of the meeting until the conclusion. I love my husband and I keep him up to date of things, because I love his support and his deepening submission, I love it when he feels the humiliation, and because I think it’s the role of man in a marriage.

It is part of who I am, what I believe. It is not a game but a way of life, and a statement.

As I said, I love the whole process. I like to flirt, seduce, be seduced by a beautiful man. I like to be asked out on a date. I like to tease my husband about my encounters. I like it when my husband helps me prepare for a new appointment.

I like to go out. I love the game, and to test a man. I like the kiss (the first kiss!), the first caress, to be in his arms, and yes, I love sex! I like to see my husband before and after, shy, tormented, or otherwise confused. I love this power I feel, and I like what it gives me, and above all I like what it does to my husband.

And I can tell you, you do not know how it feels to really control a man until he is a cuckold, your cuckold, who knows and who is kept chaste throughout the process.

The cuckolding process is so much more then having sex. It is liberating and by allowing it my husband accepts his subservient position. It is a total power exchange of the husband submitting to the dominant female.

It is neither swinging nor wife swapping. It doesn’t happen because my husband craves for it. I would have stopped after the first try. I continued because it increases my pleasure, and because I feel like it. I enjoy every minute of it. Meanwhile, my husband exists to serve me. Everything is for my pleasure, and the frustration of my husband forms part of the pleasure.

It was my husband who brought it up, more then once. He had to convince me. Before I decided to give it a try, I told my husband that if we would do it, it might be permanent. And indeed. There is no way back.

Almost always

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