It Begins Slowly, The Rules, The Obedience. The Bliss Of Following Her Command.

my penis is locked and cannot satisfy anyone.

#8 Regular and Daily Kneeling, Crawling, Spanking , Sucking, Electro-Shocking & Pegging

1. Kneeling & Crawling He should be kept Naked & in Kneeling position while he is waiting for you. This makes him submissive & trains him to listen to your commands better. Whenever you arrive home, its always nice to find your male “Waiting”, just for you, his  Mistress/Queen/Master/Lady/Boss.

He should always CRAWL around the house naked. He doesn’t have the Right to stand on his two legs. He can walk on two legs also, BUT before that he has take your Permission.

My own Husband walks around the house naked, but ONLY after getting Permission from me. Now this is VERY IMPORTANT. Because every time he misbehaves, I revoke his permission to walk and make him Crawl like a Puppy in the house, for the whole day. When he is a good boy, I let him walk on two legs all the time. Haha

2. Spanking his Ass and Balls Spanking his Ass as a punishment is the best way to teach him a lesson. But don’t Spank him with your hand, use Equipment. Don’t get me wrong, but the Ass of a boy is very strong & he won’t get hurt is you use your hands. And the purpose of punishments is to make him hurt (not extremely). When he is hurt in a punishment, then he remembers the Pain. This will remind him Not to disobey your order/command in future.  For Spanking use hair-comb, shoes, slippers, bat, remote, stick, belt, rope, whip, etc. Be hard. Don’t go easy on him, Ladies. Haha

3. Licking & Sucking your Toes Also, every time make him lick your Toes. Make this a Habit. He might feel uncomfortable or shy, but make him do it. There is nothing wrong in licking & sucking Toes. They are a part of your body, and your boyfriend/husband shall worship every part of your body. If you notice, Males only like kissing/suck/licking your boobs or hands or cheeks. But make them suck you Toes, FORCE them. They should love your Toes in the same way they love your Boobs. This habit will make you more Strong, Firm & dominating, and will make him more Submissive.

4. Electro-Shocking his Balls I instructed My slave/husband to buy one of these Remote Shock Puppy for Me several months ago. Once this shock trainer arrived, I looked it over and ordered him to attach it to a locking bondage belt that I secured around his waist. I immediately started experimenting with the shock settings on this wicked little device. My slave’s waist is that it is easily concealable under his clothes and he can wear it anywhere we go (except if we’re flying somewhere of course). I really enjoy that I am able to discipline (shock) him when we are out in public like at a restaurant, shopping mall, and so forth. I usually shock him whenever I see is his attention wander from me, or he dares to glace a little too long at another woman. Sometimes I just give him a shock when we are out and about for My own amusement because I like to see him squirm! Of course this shock trainer is absolutely great to use on My slave around the house. This shock trainer has a fairly good range and I love the fact that I can use it to summon him or administer punishment to him remotely and at various level of intensity wherever My slave is around the house, or in the yard, with just a simple touch of a button! (Isn’t technology wonderful?) Since I have been using this shock trainer on him for several months now, I have seen a huge improvement in his obedience, politeness and attentiveness towards me. Some of my girlfriends have noticed all the positive improvements in My husband’s behavior. I few weeks ago decided to let two of my girlfriends in on My little “secret” and told them about the shock trainer. I gave them the remote control so they could try using the shock trainer on My husband and see for themselves how much fun it is (for the one in charge). They loved it! One of My favorite uses for this shock trainer is when I allow My slave the privilege of licking My sweet pussy or having sex with Me. I like to give him a shock combined with a command like “faster”, “slower”, “deeper”, “harder”, etc. He responds incredibly well to this sort of training and this way I can control his actions so he provides Me with the exact sexual simulation and experience that I want when I want it. Using this approach with the shock trainer, I have also been able train my slave not to cum inside me until I (sometimes but not always) give him permission to do so. He would rather hold back his cum with all his will rather than risk receiving a merciless torture session including high intensity shocks for squirting his cum without My permission. 

5. Pegging (fucking his Ass) To those, who have no idea about Pegging, it means to Fuck his Ass with a dildo. Many women have no idea that guys can cum from ass-fucking also. It might be painful at first, but soon he will start to enjoy afterwards. Trust me, even I like getting fucked in the ass (anal), but it is different for guys as their ass are not stretchy as of a girl. I play a little game with my hubby that, i fuck his ass for 10 times, after that he can fuck my ass for 1 time. Haha Also, don’t fuck his Ass while he is wearing a chastity lock on his penis, as this might get painful, but you can use that technique for Punishments. If my hubby is misbehaving & not listening to me, then I fuck his Ass with the lock still on his dick. And he begs me to stop. This punishment is best way to discipline him. Fuck his ASS, while he is licking your pussy. Fuck him harder if he slows your pussy-licking.   

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Entry rules. Who knows when She will return!!

my Wife is the jealous type. Our open relationship is Her seeing those whom She wishes to see and me seeing the inside of the chastity tube. It works for us.

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Using His Fantasies…

Quick! What’s Your partner’s favorite fantasy? Don’t know? Unsure? Well You should know!

If Your partner is male, odds are his fantasies change. They evolve. Everyday Your partner has a chance to fantasize, he will add something new to his fantasies. That means You have to stay on top of things. Here are a few tips on how and why You want to do that…

You want to use his fantasies to enhance his daily state of arousal. Why? Because the more aroused he is, the better he will serve and obey You.

Have him tell You a fantasy while You are teasing him. He doesn’t have to go into minute details, but the more detail the better.

Try dressing the part once in awhile. You don’t have to do it every day, but each time You do it, he will get very aroused and he will want to serve You even more.

Tell him one of his fantasies using Yourself as the main Dominant. It doesn’t have to be exactly what he would say, it just has to incorporate many of the same visuals.

Tell him ANYTHING that would be arousing, humiliating, or down right embarrassing to him. Even if it something neither of you would ever do.

Fantasy is the fastest way to get into his head. Getting into his head is the fasted way to get him aroused. For example, neither of you may actually want to bring another person into your sexual encounters, but telling him a fantasy that includes such things can make him extremely aroused. That is Your main objective. Isn’t it? Tell him You are thinking of adding another woman to help You tease his cock or use a strap-on on him. Tell him You are thinking of inviting some guy from work (or his friend) to join You so that You can use them both in a bi-sexual way.

It really doesn’t matter what kinds of things You add to Your story, and You don’t have to give details while relating this fantasy. All You have to do is plant the seeds and his imagination will do the rest. Have fun with it. Oh, and when he asks You later if You would really do those things, just tell him that You might, if You decide You really want to. After all, it is Your decision. That will keep his imagination working overtime.

                                                          M.I.

The 4 Pillars of FLR...

By dragonflyhive,

I call them my four D’s…

Domesticate Deny Discipline Dominate

Domesticate

Establishing a successful 24/7 female led relationship is a lot of hard work on both parties and on many levels. First of all you both have to agree that this lifestyle is what you want and worth the effort. Once you head down the FLR-road, there might be no turning back. Chances are that you yourself will appreciate the lifestyle more and more as you move along. Your husband/partner on the other hand may begin to dislike it once he realizes his entire life is changing and that it isn’t just a hot fantasy he can wank off to any more. In a female led relationship the hubby needs to be doing the majority of the housework and accepting this is a major challenge for most men.

The process of getting your hubby to accept his new role and take on the household chores is what I refer to as “Domestication”. It is important for the power exchange in the relationship. The domestication of your man is important for you to be able to feel “in charge” and for him to feel submissive. It’s what makes the dynamic in a female led relationship work.

Deny

In order to get the attention you need from your husband/partner as you domesticate him, you deny him what he loves most of all, his climax. I use a chastity device for this purpose but it doesn’t have to be a device as long as your hubby is 100% committed and understands the importance of you owning his orgasms. In the beginning you use his orgasms as rewards. You train him with orgasms the same way a dolphin-trainer will slip a fish to a dolphin for doing it’s jump. For example; after doing the appointed household chores to your liking, you tell him he has been a really good boy and as a reward he will be allowed to fuck you. You get the idea. Women have been using sex as rewards for thousands of years. The difference here is that he will know that it is a reward and that you’ll be doing it continuously with him wanting it to be this way.

As your FLR evolves you’ll want to make it harder and harder for him to get his rewards until you find a cyclus that suits your relationship. In time, if you succeed, this will become easier and you won’t have to reward him this way with the same frequency. He’ll learn to appreciate that the true reward is the lifestyle itself.

PS! Taking away his orgasms doesn’t mean that you have to limit your own. Feel free to have sex, masturbate or use your husband in any way you want as often as you like as long as you don’t allow him to climax. From my experience, involving my husband in my pleasure just enhances the effect of the denial. When you’ve had your pleasure and you’re completely satisfied, make sure you talk to him about why he can’t cum and which chores he has to finish to get his reward. When he’s extremely horny, be positive and talk about how you appreciate his efforts with the chores. This makes the conditioning of his mind go a lot faster.

Discipline

The same way you use orgasms as rewards you should also use discipline and punish him when his performance isn’t good enough. You can punish him in a lot of different ways. From simply prolonging the period without orgasm to a harsh bare bottom caning. I am not a sadist and I don’t take any pleasure from disciplining my husband. I do it because I know he needs it. It’s his wish not mine. My husband tells me he needs discipline from time to time in order re-enforce the power exchange between us. The punishments I administer also helps him correct his behaviour and the fear of them helps him to intensify his efforts to please me.

In a lot of the articles, stories, and blog entries you read from Dominatrixes online, you get the impression that bad boys need discipline and spanking is the only way to do that. I don’t agree. I use a variety of methods other than spanking. Very few of them involves hitting.

For instance, the one he hates the most is when I simply ignore him. Absolutely no violence is involved. My husband hates being ignored and it never takes long for him to figure out why he’s being ignored and to correct his behaviour. It’s very effective. I also quite often use what I call “suffer in silence”. I use it because it’s very effective, extremely easy for me to administer, it doesn’t make any sound (we have kids), and it lasts more than 30 minutes which actually gives him a lot of time to think about why he’s being punished. It’s kind of like a harsh spanking and corner time combined. When I administer “suffer in silence” I order him to go to our bedroom and “undress and cuff up”. I follow him upstairs and lock him spreadeagle on his back on our bed before removing his chastitycage. While doing so I make sure he knows why he is being disciplined. This is important. Then I finish up by rubbing a generous ammount of BenGay onto his cock and balls. If I’m especially angry or disappointed in him I slip some into his anus as well. Then I leave the room, close the door behind me and go downstairs for some quiet time with the newspaper or the kids. The effect lasts 30-40 minutes after which I release him and we cuddle up for some aftercare while he tells me what he has learned and how he is going to improve himself and his efforts.

When it comes to discipline, use your imagination and discuss the alternatives with your spouse. He needs to know what might happen and fear it. Keep in mind that it doesn’t have to be spanking.

Dominate

Through Domestication, Denial and Discipline you will be the head of your household.

Give it time. My husband and I started on this wonderful journey over 15 years ago and our relationship is still evolving. It’s very often one step forward and two steps back but as long as you’re both committed to the task the results will come.

In a successful modern 24/7 female led relationship you’ll find very few spiked corsets, whips and thigh high boots. Usually there is just a strong, confident woman with an urge to be in charge and a confident husband longing to be submissive, both sharing the courage to challenge the old fashioned patriarchal society. They live this way because female led relationships simply works better…

“An obedient husband is a happy husband!”

Thanks to dragonflyhive