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Reality of FLR, vs. Fantasy

Reality of FLR, vs. Fantasy

The other day I was asked by a follower to share my thoughts on the reality of FLR since most of what is written on the subject is “session” based and centered around play.  While I am not currently in one. (still searching) I have been previously.  

My other Domme friends and I often make a joke that if people knew how normal our lives where they would be bored.   We all have good days and bad days, as we are human first and foremost.  We have to pay bills, deal with annoying co-workers, crazy in-laws, debate over what to do tonight, and where to eat, and the normal goings on of moody spouses just like any other couple.  

So what then makes it an FLR?    Rituals, Routines, Respect, and Obedience!

Daily rituals:  I like rituals, be it waking me with pussy worship, or a cup of tea.  Kissing my feet when I enter the house after a long day of work.   Things like drawing my bath, turning down the bed, asking permission to sleep in the bed, being naked around the home whenever it is possible.  Rituals such as weekly inspections, measurements, journal checks.   Having to say certain thing when doing certain thing.. e.g.  (when putting on a collar, or Chasity cage have them say “Mistress mine, thy will is mine”.)

Routines:  While I love the element of surprise and think there should always be spontaneity in a relationship.  There are some things that must be constant.  Aftercare, the freedom to talk freely about what happened, or what is to be done. Routines related to hygiene can be easily incorporated in the FLR, without it being a “scene” per se.  “Come shave me” or  “Come here so I can manscape you”  are both reinforcing roles, and place, but serve as reminders of who’s the boss.  These “rules” must be discussed and mutually agreed upon, within reason. However, I’m not one for discussing them ad nauseum.  Some things are just things that make me happy, and I’m not up to negotiating them. Other things are mood dependent, and negotiable. There is however a typically division of labor, and chores. I expect you to keep the house clean to my standards, and I am a huge proponent of the “Subbie-do” list.

Respect:  This is paramount in any relationship.  The Domme should always respect the sub, and vice versa.  Please note that I started with the Domme.  So many think that a person’s gift of submission is an excuse to be disrespectful and dismissive.  In an FLR that is not so.  Yes, you can humiliate, and at times degrade, but it is imperative that the submissive know that his submission is cherished, valued and brings your pleasure. Otherwise, you will end up with a shell of person, and neither of you deriving any pleasure.

Obedience:  If I lift my skirt and tell you to kiss my ass at any given time I expect you to do so. Even if it’s Thanksgiving dinner and your family is in the other room.  (keep in mind that a respectful domme isn’t going to out you to your family, but would do such a thing discreetly) If we can’t agree to a movie we both want to see then deference should be to my wishes.   (again with respect. you should be free to express your wishes).

Obedience and Compliance are two different things.  One is done willingly, and the other is done for fear of retribution.  I do not want my submissive to fear me.  I want them to worship me and work for my happiness and thus earn rewards. I want this to be voluntary, not done out of fear of punishment.  Yes, punishments will happen, as will “FUNishments” because no one is perfect, and there is always room for improvement. The key to it all is the mindset of the servitude from both the giver and the receiver.

In a perfect world, here are just some of the “rules” I would ask from the slave in my life, should I be lucky enough to find him… There are many more, but they would be private.

1.      Thou shall not cum without permission, and if you are told to eat your cum you will do so willingly, without hesitation.

2.      Thou shall wear chastity cage if and when I request it, and if  it is possible to do so.

3.      Thou shall not ask for release but be appreciative of all intimate contact you are given.

4.      Thou shall never take sleeping near me for granted and always ask permission to do so.

5.      Thou must always wear some marking of ownership, be it a cage, panties, a collar, or a decorative piece of jewelry.

6.      Thou shall always greet me on your knees in the morning.   Unless instructed otherwise.

7.      Thou shall always be thankful for any release or attention that one is given

8.      Thou shall not top from the bottom, but one can always journal their thoughts

9.      Thou shall be subjected to weekly inspections for things such as:  Measuring, grooming, journaling, cum volume, etc..

10.   Thou shall worship whatever I give you to worship, be it my toes, my ass, my pussy, and do so as if it is you last meal.

Xxoo

Ms. Eden

11/6/16

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Kinky for Cum 

My husband stood naked in the kitchen. He had a hard cock, of course, and his pubic hair was shaved. There was lubricant dripping from the end of his cock.

I was dressed and ready to go out the door for most of the day. I walked over to him, reached down and grabbed his sperm filled balls and gave them a firm squeeze. I gave him a soft kiss and said see you later. We both looked down at his cock as I slid my hand up its length and wiped a large drop of pre-cum off the end of his prick and onto the end of my finger. I moved my hand toward his mouth, he automatically open it. I put my finger in his mouth and he licked his pre-cum off my finger.

“When I come back, I’ll take care of this for you, would that be OK?

He just moaned.

“I’ll let you cum in me, when I come back. Would you like that?”

He said yes

“God, I bet there is a huge amount of cum in those balls” He hadn’t cum in a number of days.

He said he thought so too.

“And then you know what I want you to do after you cum in me?”

He nodded his head

“Tell me what I’ll have you do, you know you want to talk about it with me”

“I’ll lick my cum from you”

“That’s right you will, and why will you do that?”

“Because you’ll tell me to, because I love you and I love your pussy, even when it’s filled with my cum”

“Especially when it’s filled with your cum, because you’re my cum eating husband aren’t you?”

“Yes”

“Yes what?”

“Yes, I’m your cum eating husband.”

We both look down at his cock, it is so hard it looks like it could snap.

“I bet if I touched your cock it would explode”

“It would, I have not doubt”

I don’t touch his cock, but I do take his hand and say, “Walk me to my car”

Our garage is part of the house and there really isn’t much chance of our neighbor seeing him, but there is a little chance once the garage door opens.

As I back out of the garage and head down the driveway, the last thing I see of my husband is him waving goodbye with a hard bobbing cock. It’s very cute. His balls are going to be sore by the time I get home. I think I’ll take my time.

We weren’t always this kinky. It started a couple of months ago when my husband, in a fit of passion and a little drunk, told me he wanted to lick his cum from me after making love. Really what he wanted was for me to make him lick his cum from me.

We never did anything about it, he seemed to lose interest in doing it once he came. Over the next few months, he mentioned it once or twice and I could tell he still had an interest in me making him do it, but I think he was embarrassed to mention it much. Then one evening, we were having a drink on the deck of our club. It was a beautiful night and it was our first drink, we were standing by ourselves. My husband had his arm around my shoulder. He kissed the side of my head and said. “When we get home I want to make love to you and then I want you to sit on my face and make me eat my cum from you. I have fantasized about this for a long time, and I just can’t make myself do it, so you have to just do it for me. Promise me you will make me do it, lick my cum from you”

I was shocked. I just looked at him. This was not the conversation I was expecting. He was obviously embarrassed he said it, I could tell he wished he hadn’t. He needed to get past this fantasy by it becoming a reality.

“OK, not a problem. I don’t think your going to like it, but you are going to do it, that is for sure. And don’t try to get out of it because you are definitely going to eat your cum tonight. You have asked a number of times and then just didn’t do it, tonight, you’re not getting out of it.” I smiled because there was a little tent in his pants.

Just then friends walked up to say hello. I know he was going to have an interesting evening thinking about what was going to happen. I also decided we would talk about it on the drive home to raise his embarrassment level a bit … and his cock.

That was the beginning. After he came in me, he didn’t really want to go down on me. I pushed him onto his back and reminded him that he wanted me to do this. I then crawled up and straddled his face, holding my hand over my pussy to keep his cum in me. I asked him if he was ready, he said yes, and I removed my hand and started to lower myself. He just said, “Oh my god.”

I don’t know if he liked the taste of cum but he did like me making him lick me clean. And I liked getting a nice soft tongue in me after having sex. I liked getting his cum cleaned out of me. I liked the idea of him eating his cum after all the cum I have eaten. I liked fucking his face after he fucked me. This was all pretty nasty! I liked it, and he defiantly liked it, and right then I decided that his cum eating was going to be a regular part of our love making. After I came and we were holding each other, I asked him what he thought. He admitted the taste wasn’t great, but not too bad, but what he liked most was having me “make” him do it. He said he really liked his submissiveness and really liked my dominance. I grabbed his cock and it was partially hard again. We made love a little more and we fell asleep, he was still hard, but I was tired.

The next morning before we got out of bed he was hard again. Very hard in fact. I asked him what we were going to do with that, and he said he wanted to be brought right to the edge of cumming, and then left hard and horny so he would think about me all day. I played with his cock and balls for about 10 minutes, stopping twice so he would not cum. When I left the bed to get coffee, he was naked on his knees, legs spread wide, balls pulled up and cock pointing toward the ceiling bobbing and leaking.

During the course of the day I could tell he was very horny. As we passed he would touch me or kiss my neck or shoulder. By the time we went to bed, he was almost crazed. We made love quickly, and he came very hard and long telling me how much he loved me and how he thought of me all day.

After he came I let him rest for five minutes and then told him to get “down there and clean me up.”

He did without hesitation. I might be able to get use to this dominance thing.

The teasing part of his submissiveness also developed over time. Once he started eating his cum more often, he felt there was nothing more dramatic than that, so he told me all of his fantasies. One was his desire to be teased and to have his orgasm delayed. I now enjoy seeing his cock hard and leaking, and NOT letting him cum.

He is more attentive when he is horny

Nudity is also a turn on for him. He likes being naked and hard while I am dressed. For him, nudity also includes being clean shaven “down there”. This too turns him on because he feels very “naked” for me, and it is something that only I know about. He also likes the process of shaving his cock and balls, it keeps him horny and thinking about me because it needs to be attended to often. He does look very naked when he is shaven.

So that is how my husband ended up naked in the kitchen with a shaved hard cock, horny and desperate to cum, talking about eating his own sperm from my pussy after he cums, with his fully dressed wife squeezing his balls and stoking his hard on, but not letting him cum. It all makes sense now doesn’t it…

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a work in progress...(i'm a)

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