Oh God, This Really Strikes A Chord. I Struggle A Lot With My Identity As A Queer Girl Because I Never

Oh god, this really strikes a chord. I struggle a lot with my identity as a queer girl because I never feel "queer enough". I identify as bi, and I have since I was 13. However, my attraction to women differs greatly from my attraction to men, and the attraction I feel towards women is more romantic than physical. And every time I am attracted to a man I start overthinking and my anxiety comes into play. I almost start shaming myself for liking men. This always makes me feel like I'm feigning my queerness and I don't deserve a place in queer spaces. The bisexual label puts some kind of pressure on me, and from time to time I don’t even want to identify as anything because I’m too confused. I’m sorry, I can’t really help, but I felt like sharing because I found someone like me and it made me feel a little bit better. At the end of the day, I know that all my crushes on girls were genuine, and I remember how and what I felt. Keeping that in mind helps me feel more secure

sometimes i feel so pressured to be “queer enough”. i know it’s the internalized biphobia, but i just feel so guilty when i talk about my attraction to women and fem-aligned people. in my attempt to become ok with my attraction to men and my own identity as a man that i lost my ability to be ok with my attraction to women. especially because my attraction to women isn’t exactly the type that men are expected to feel. i don’t want to be the dominant one in the relationship, i relate to posts that are like “i want a strong sword wife” instead of the other way around. i want to say “i love women so much” and not worry about feeling like that makes my attraction to men any less queer.

i care a lot about my place in the LGBT+ community, and i know that my place as the B in the lgBt community relates to my attraction to the same and other genders so i know it’s ok to still have m/f attraction and still secure in my indentity, hell my identity is partially BUILT on that attraction, but i feel so uncomfortable about it.

if anyone who’s bisexual or pansexual or any other multi sexual identity has any advice on feeling more secure in your m/f attraction while still feeling “queer enough” i would love some advice

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